tomcatturbo
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- Dec 6, 2005
Hi all,
My wife recently approached me to ask me about going back to school. She's 45, and a licensed hair stylist. She has been a stay at home Mom, and I make a good living, so she's been staying home for the last 4 years with my little one.
She approaches me 1st about becoming a medical assistant, and I was very happy about a choice in the medical field. However, the other day we went to the Restaurant, and she tells me she's very interested in possibly going to a massage therapy school to possibly become a massage therapist. This I personally found to be unacceptable, and I'll tell you why. Please give your opinions and possible experiences. I'd be happy to hear any pros, cons, etc
Pro's
1.) Good for cash money/tips - If you work hard and build a clientele I guess this can be profitable. However, it really depends on where you work, if there's overhead, and how you're paid.
2.) Can usually make your own schedule.
3.) I would be benefit from her schooling, as I would end up probably getting the best and free massages.
CONS:
1.) Men who would expose themselves to her in a private setting. I once dated a very professional massage therapist who told me from time to time, a very "professional" client would act completely out of line, and immediately or very subtlly expose his private parts to her. She would sometimes get pretty upset, however, she truly admitted to me it was sort of intriguing that men can go to that level.
2.) Very intimate contact: I feel that no matter what, if an attractive woman is massaging your upper/lower back, legs, thighs, shoulders and chest (front part of oody), there's no way that avoiding the natural is avoidable. Just the thought of that drives me insane, and I explained to my wife that it's not what "she can control" , but truly what she "can't control." Men have a mind/testosterone of their own.
3.) Physical aspect of the job: Massage therapists can sometimes work their hands off literally. My wife has had carpal tunnel problems in the past from holding scissors all day and scrubbing heads in the sink, nevermind having to squeeze and kneed a persons body/muscles for long periods of time. It can be a very tough job sometimes for a massage therapist.
4.) Insurance and Benefits: I know for sure that a massage therapist has a hard time obtaining any type of great medical plan with benefits, unless they work for some large medical office/corporation or hotel.
5.) Trust Issues: My wife assures me to trust her, but that's almost like a stab in my heart in a sense. I have thoughts of her going into a private sessionn with candles, and soft new age music and massaging some muscular guy- and him moaning like he's having intercourse while my wife sincerely can't wait to get home to her husband and 2 small kids....
6.) Hotel Room Massages, Massages at Home, Etc: What happens if a client says to her, can you please come to my hotel room and give me a massage? What happens if my wife ever decided to try and take it one step further and bring a client to our home while I'm out working or whatever? I'm sorry, but I won't even entertain these thoughts or give them a chance to ever come to fruition.
Bottom Line- this is ridiculous. I find it unacceptable, and if she's playing chicken with our marriage then I'll tell her it's ok for her to go to school, but when she graduates the "ONLY" person she'll massage would be me her husband and my family members. Anything else is unacceptable, and I would find her being passive aggressive in the sense that she's looking herself for a way out of our marriage. I'm willing to go to counseling to help change her mind for her career path, but I'm standing my ground.
Massage Therapy isn't a true medical field practice. Physical and Occupational therapy is. Becoming a Medical assistant of some sort is. They have a couple of really good programs here in Tampa/Lakeland Florida are for these growing and much needed fields. Also, there's room for advancement in the medical field now, and for the future.
Massage therapy is also become saturated. Quick schooling, flooded field, many not even massage therapist, but "aroma therapists, lava rock healers, and the whole Body RUB clones."
I needed to share this. Please leave me your thoughts, comments and opinions. Also, how would "You Feel if your wife wanted to become a massage therapist?"
Thank You - also you can pm or e-mail me any info or thoughts. I'm completely private and confidential.
My wife recently approached me to ask me about going back to school. She's 45, and a licensed hair stylist. She has been a stay at home Mom, and I make a good living, so she's been staying home for the last 4 years with my little one.
She approaches me 1st about becoming a medical assistant, and I was very happy about a choice in the medical field. However, the other day we went to the Restaurant, and she tells me she's very interested in possibly going to a massage therapy school to possibly become a massage therapist. This I personally found to be unacceptable, and I'll tell you why. Please give your opinions and possible experiences. I'd be happy to hear any pros, cons, etc
Pro's
1.) Good for cash money/tips - If you work hard and build a clientele I guess this can be profitable. However, it really depends on where you work, if there's overhead, and how you're paid.
2.) Can usually make your own schedule.
3.) I would be benefit from her schooling, as I would end up probably getting the best and free massages.
CONS:
1.) Men who would expose themselves to her in a private setting. I once dated a very professional massage therapist who told me from time to time, a very "professional" client would act completely out of line, and immediately or very subtlly expose his private parts to her. She would sometimes get pretty upset, however, she truly admitted to me it was sort of intriguing that men can go to that level.
2.) Very intimate contact: I feel that no matter what, if an attractive woman is massaging your upper/lower back, legs, thighs, shoulders and chest (front part of oody), there's no way that avoiding the natural is avoidable. Just the thought of that drives me insane, and I explained to my wife that it's not what "she can control" , but truly what she "can't control." Men have a mind/testosterone of their own.
3.) Physical aspect of the job: Massage therapists can sometimes work their hands off literally. My wife has had carpal tunnel problems in the past from holding scissors all day and scrubbing heads in the sink, nevermind having to squeeze and kneed a persons body/muscles for long periods of time. It can be a very tough job sometimes for a massage therapist.
4.) Insurance and Benefits: I know for sure that a massage therapist has a hard time obtaining any type of great medical plan with benefits, unless they work for some large medical office/corporation or hotel.
5.) Trust Issues: My wife assures me to trust her, but that's almost like a stab in my heart in a sense. I have thoughts of her going into a private sessionn with candles, and soft new age music and massaging some muscular guy- and him moaning like he's having intercourse while my wife sincerely can't wait to get home to her husband and 2 small kids....
6.) Hotel Room Massages, Massages at Home, Etc: What happens if a client says to her, can you please come to my hotel room and give me a massage? What happens if my wife ever decided to try and take it one step further and bring a client to our home while I'm out working or whatever? I'm sorry, but I won't even entertain these thoughts or give them a chance to ever come to fruition.
Bottom Line- this is ridiculous. I find it unacceptable, and if she's playing chicken with our marriage then I'll tell her it's ok for her to go to school, but when she graduates the "ONLY" person she'll massage would be me her husband and my family members. Anything else is unacceptable, and I would find her being passive aggressive in the sense that she's looking herself for a way out of our marriage. I'm willing to go to counseling to help change her mind for her career path, but I'm standing my ground.
Massage Therapy isn't a true medical field practice. Physical and Occupational therapy is. Becoming a Medical assistant of some sort is. They have a couple of really good programs here in Tampa/Lakeland Florida are for these growing and much needed fields. Also, there's room for advancement in the medical field now, and for the future.
Massage therapy is also become saturated. Quick schooling, flooded field, many not even massage therapist, but "aroma therapists, lava rock healers, and the whole Body RUB clones."
I needed to share this. Please leave me your thoughts, comments and opinions. Also, how would "You Feel if your wife wanted to become a massage therapist?"
Thank You - also you can pm or e-mail me any info or thoughts. I'm completely private and confidential.