Child custody/visitation question.need help

[NEAL BREW]

I have sole custody of an 8 year old child. My ex only has visitation rights of every other weekend and 2 one week periods during summer. On these one week visits are they allowed to leave the state? She informed me two days before leaving that they were going about 800 miles away. Ive been told that she needs my permission to cross state lines. I dont feel comfortable with her going that far away. I live in Oklahoma and would appreciate any help or info.

 

[turbot2112]

all depends on what your agreement says.there must be something in there about that. the girl i used to date had that kind of agreement with her devorce and her son. it was up to her whether or not her ex husband was allowed to take the kid out of state. good luck

 

[zam70]

This would vary according to your divorce papers.
If there is nothing in them pertaining to state lines, there isn't much you can do.

You need to ask yourself why you don't want her to take the child out of state. Is it for fear of her not returning or because you hold a grudge?
If the former, get an emergency court order to stop it, if it's the latter...I'd do nothing.

 

[NEAL BREW]

Originally posted by zam70
This would vary according to your divorce papers.
If there is nothing in them pertaining to state lines, there isn't much you can do.

You need to ask yourself why you don't want her to take the child out of state. Is it for fear of her not returning or because you hold a grudge?
If the former, get an emergency court order to stop it, if it's the latter...I'd do nothing.

Its definately not a grudge thing, its more of a shes not very responsible thing(example; when child was 2 yrs old, she left her in car unnattended for 45 min with window cracked during august and still doesnt see harm in that)

 

[zam70]

Gotcha - get an emergency court order. It can usually ahppen with in 24 hours.

 

[NEAL BREW]

Originally posted by zam70
Gotcha - get an emergency court order. It can usually ahppen with in 24 hours.

Too late, they left at 6
;00 pm today

 

[Reggie West]

It does not hurt to call and talk to your child during the week.

Make sure he is OK, that is only normal for parents to worry. Especially when they live with you so much.

 

[NEAL BREW]

Originally posted by Reggie West
It does not hurt to call and talk to your child during the week.

Make sure he is OK, that is only normal for parents to worry. Especially when they live with you so much.

The mother left no number or any contact info. I only found out they were leaving state because my daughter told me the day before they left.

 

[wlaukaitis]

My wife has sole custody and when we were going to move from NY to VA her ex did one of those "You can't do that" order things, it really only held us up about a week or 2. I think he did it just to be a pain.

I suppose you have lawyer? Ask him/her about that. I am sure she would have to ask you to leave the state I guess you could be a real pain if you wanted......

If I had a dollar for each time my wifes ex didn't leave any contact info I could buy the GTO I always wanted.

 

[artrenee10]

1) Get an emergency stay of custody right NOW!!!!! If you have sole custody then she Cannot I mean CANNOT take your child out of state without your sole permission.

Im sorry for my state of urgency but I do not want to see anyone else go through something like this. This unfortunately is how we find kids on the sides of milkboxes still.

Get it done now if you haven't already, do not waste any time whatsoever in doing this..........

Steve Chambers