I got a replacement wire from Caspers electronics...
http://www.casperselectronics.com/store2/product_info.php?cPath=61_62_5_6_9&products_id=1042
Ok....I'm not sure if the orange ECM wire is the culprit....I turned the key on and SES light comes on (no blink)....so I think the ECM may be getting power. I also notice the fuel pump relay clicks when I turn the key on. I had a friend turn the key on and I felt the fuel pump relay click. Instead of disconnecting the orange ECM wire this time I turned the key on and off pausing a few seconds in between....then I finally heard the fuel pump come on and see the gaugae show 43 psi.....You probably found your culprit then. Sounds like theres a break in the orange ECM wire thats giving you an intermittent connection to the ECM every time you move it around to disconnect/reconnect it. No ECM power = no fuel pump power.
With key on, engine off the SES light should blink and then stay on...if it doesn't there's no power to the ECM. Try jiggling the wire around (with key on, eng off) and see if the pump comes on.
When I first bought my car, the orange ECM wire was taped in place to the fender so it would not move around...it was broken internally and the previous owner found the "sweet spot" for it to work.