Ever wanted to RIP YOUR ROOMATES ARM OUT AND......

[Reaper]

BEAT THE LIVING SHlT out of him?


i am pacing back and forth here. do i blow up like i have wanted to for the past 4 months or do i calmly speak to him like i have been with out any success?


this kid is either mildly retarted or just plane STOOOOPID. one other possiblity is his the fact he is from a same town in Minn.

1st he had a 99 impreza RS with a visnu stage 2 Turbo on it (said he had never lost a race, and it made 320 hp to the rear. he also said he did not want to brag in his interview with the other roomates that his car was the fasted in the house. i put a few cars on him by the time we got out of the intercetion) anyway, he came home one night and said he car was over heating at freeway speeds and not running very well. so i did some research and found out that his motor was 10.0 to 1 comp and was really not built well for boost. so i started to check for signs of a blown HG. we did a compression check, looked ok. then at 2 am he insisted that i drive him to autozone for a pressure tester, after i mentioned that being an other method for testing for a blown HG. so after about 30 minutes of beggin i drove him to the 24 hour autozone 30 miles from our place. i did this with out a THANK YOU, and him beggin for me to stop and get him some chew! we come home and i tell him i am going to bed. he says how do you do this. i tell him to read the f'ing directions. i lock my door and go to sleep.

the next morning he wakes me up at 9am asking if i can help him with his car! i put some shorts on and go out to find he has the front cover off the car, and the timing belt off...... the kid dont have a f'in clue what he is doing that this point. i ask him if he has a chilton or haynes manual. he said no, whats that. so i call the dealer and they copy some pages form the service manual for me. we go and get them then, I go ahead and replace the HG with out much help from him. agian
WITH OUT A THANKS.

that is the the start.


other issues:

- he is lazy, will not clean up after him self
- he has no sence of respect for others. i work early he is Loud at 2am with is f'ing drunks he calls friends
- he apperently has no clue how to lock an exterior door, turn off a light, TV or any other major appliance after he is done using it. (our timer on a dryer broke. he left closes in there several times over night 10+ hours of dry time)
- he insists on having a window open (AZ is hot, we have AC YOU DONT LEAVE WINDOWS OPEN IN AZ WITH THE AC ON DAMN IT!)
- refuses to help with matinace of the house, yard, cleaning etc.


and to top it all off tonight..........


he loaded a virus on to my other roomates (my best friend) computer. agian he did not say SORRY just said "dude that sucks" i hope you can get it off of there." he just got up and left after the virus warning popped up. no offer to help or trouble shoot.

so i have started to ingnore him all together i dont even say hi or respond to his comments or questions. i refuse to talk to him. maybe he will get the hint i dont like him and he will move out.

i am a perdy calm guy. i used to have a temper, is in check most times now. i have been in enuff fights in my life time to know that its not the way to solve issues. i have taken a lot of martial arts classes and know what i am capable of. at 25 i dont see a need to beat snot out of him but talking to this kid is like talking to a blow up doll.


i am just a more then a bit irritated. i will try talking to him more but i honestly see my self losing it.

so the question is do i talk to him once more or just beat the SHlt out of him?

 

[Pat Adkins]

What ever happened to people having respect for others? Take his tires off his car and leave them in front of it, some people need BIG hints. Make it a game and see how much you can mess with him.

 

[John Larkin]

Pretty funny poll. I can appreciate your frustration; BTDT. Some unanswered questions need to be answered before a good solution can be made:

Who owns the house? Did everyone there sign a lease?

If he shares the responsibility in writing for the house, it's his house too until the end of the lease.

The best alternative from my limited knowledge of the situation would be to establish house rules. When these are established, make a pact that when they are violated you will be confronting him and you expect the same from him. Also make it clear that this is not a game to find a loophole in the rules; everyone is responsible for themselves and disruptive behavior will not be created or accepted. You all share equally in maintaining order as well as an adult living environment.

One possibility is to create a stiff monetary penalty as the consequence for failing to uphold the rules (example - $5 to each roommate when chores aren't done). The idea is for everyone to get along, be happy individually without taking advantage of one another and to be respectful of each other's needs. It would be wise to put these in writing to refer to when needed. I wouldn't post them on the wall (which would cause resentment) but just have them for reference. People tend to get the hint when money is involved, especially if you don't have alot.

It sounds like he is young and just needs some life experience to grow out of this. If he won't participate in a solution then you'll be forced to ask him to move out as soon as possible, wouldn't you agree?

 

[turboscott]

I agree that knowing the living arraagements is important. If it is your house kick him out and find a new roommate if you need the money. If you all signed a lease, how much longer til it is through?


First of all, nobody forced you to help him with his car. You can blame him if you want but you chose to help him. If he asked me to bring him to the 24 hour parts store I would have said, "Ar eyou nuts, you do nothing for anyone around this house and now you want me to bring you to the parts store in the middle of the night?" If he is such a loser why would you do his HG for him after he messed it up? Let him learn his lessons on his own. If he didn't know how to put the car back together he shouldn't have taken it apart in the first place.

Fighting him will not help you at all. You will end up in jail and he will be sitting at home with the window open and the dryer running still.

 

[GN One Day...]

Bad enough having 1 roommate, can't imagine having 2. Like said, if there is no lease conflict, move or ask him to move. Don't work on his car for him, if something goes wrong, even unrelated, you can bet you'll be the one being blamed for it. If he can't fix it, the dealership can. They even have a tow truck. Don't get physical, that'll just create more tension. You and your buddy need to put him on notice and give him a reason. He has 30 days to improve or he's gotta go. If he won't, then you and your buddy should go out looking for another place (maybe better) and stick him with the rent. Check out your lease situation, how do you stand on that? Who all is on it?

 

[salvageV6]

Actually YOU are the problem, you are the enabler.

Why do you do everything he whines about?

Good thing he isn't a drug addict.

As Nancy once said, Just say NO!

Charge him for gas money some day and he won't come back. I'd charge gas money for a 30 minute drive to a car parts store late at night for sure. At least a free meal out of the deal.

Okay, I voted you could beat him senseless with his own arm, go ahead.

 

[Joe 1320]

Oh my god..... this guy sounds like a roomate I had in college.

He is referred to as a "User". Someone who will use and abuse anyone just to get what they want.

There is no winning answer except keep as far away from the guy as possible. When he asks for anything, and I do mean ANYTHING, you calmly tell him to kiss your butt and find some other sucker to use and abuse. Anything other than that, you are simply lowering yourself to his level. Besides that, it won't do any good to get angry, beat the crap out of him, etc.... he won't get the message anyway.

 

[Nick Micale]

Don't you wish you listened to your father Dathan?

 

[gn85]

When I saw this thread, I thought you moved in with my old roommate. *WHEW*.

Don't kick his a$$. Very tempting, but will get you nowhere. If this guy is going to be a prick, leave him be and take care of things on your end. Have nothing to do with him.

My former roommate... has a real bad DWI and can only drive his car with the blow-to-start meter. Guy was a real loser. Wasn't supposed to drink at all, but we went out to a club one night and sure enough he was drinking. Well.. he started not feeling well and wanted to go home... I was having a good time and didn't want to leave right away so I told him (out of trust) to go sit in the Buick. DO NOT START THE CAR, DO NOT MOVE THE CAR! Sure enough, I come outside about 15 mins later and who's car is sitting in front of the club, idling!! I WAS READY TO KICK HIS A$$. Driving home I almost locked up the brakes a few times and let him walk. From that night on, I DID NOT talk to him about anything except things to do with the house.

Several months later, I told him (didn't ask) that my g/f would be visiting for several weeks and would be staying in the house. He protested claiming that would use too much electricity and water. ???? That was the final straw and I moved out.

I don't know what your situation is but don't get into a fight. Later on, I thanked myself for not doing that no matter how much he deserved it. No sense in putting myself in jail and legal problems over such a waste. Especially when the legal consequenses can seriously affect my career.

Hope you get it straight.

 

[2quiktocare]

LMAO Nick, my very thoughts. I don't know how many times since my fathers death and me becoming a father myself that I have turned my eyes towards Heaven and apologized to him for things I didn't listen to that he told me. Life has a way of reminding us of our faults, thank goodness... Mark

 

[Reaper]

Originally posted by Nick Micale
Don't you wish you listened to your father Dathan?

hummm Nick, what did my Dad say? refresh my memory? he talks a lot


as for kicking his a$$ well i would love to do it, but yes i knew before i even posted this topic it would not get me anywhere. that is why he has not gotten a beating in the 6 months he has been here. i just needed to vent a bit. i think i am gunna buy a heavy bag this week and maybe put on a demonstration for him.


as for the details on the house.... i what you would call the care taker, i do not hold the title of renter i simply rent a room, however my friends parents own the house (this friend dont live in the house any more he moved in with the GF, kinda long and funny story.). Fvcktard ( that is his nickname) has a lease, as do i. so i am rather suck with him. i have talked to the owners and they say deal with it really cause he has done nothing that would cause then to break the lease with him. i am sure there was some legal reasons too. i am really hoping i catch the kid smoking pot here in the house so i can bounce his ass to the curb. that is really the only way i can get him out, unless his mommy stops paying his rent.


oh well i just had to vent a bit.

thanks for listening.

Dathan




OH who voted to talk to him like an adult?

 

[krom]

Roomates suck, I remember when I moved into a house with 2 friends, I ended up crawling home to my parents 6 months later drunk, broke and humble.

Move back home save for a down payment and buy a house.

 

[Reaper]

Originally posted by krom
Roomates suck, I remember when I moved into a house with 2 friends, I ended up crawling home to my parents 6 months later drunk, broke and humble.

Move back home save for a down payment and buy a house.

ya, i am working on the house, my father and i are working a deal right now.

moving back in with the parents is always an option, how ever its not the best. i go to school at ASU east and work in tempe, getting a new job is easy, but the 80 mile drive to school and work makes it very incovenient.

Dathan

 

[slow87]

welcome to married life! Reminds me of every married couple I know(including my parents )

I vote to beat the crap out him