Hmmm. The way I see it, you've got some valves hanging.
If the TCC solenoid itself was sticking, which is very common, then you'd have similar symptoms. However, once the transmission made a coastdown 2-1 shift, it would free up because the TCC solenoid no longer has a fluid signal. If your car is stalling in low gear because the TCC won't let go, it's very likely that the TCC valve itself is sticking in the pump.
As for the inconsistent shift points; that too can be caused by a sticking TV valve train and/or a sticking 1-2 shift valve train.
I'd be inclined to pull the pan again and drop the VB this time. See if valves are sticking and give it a thorough disassembly/cleaning. Also, pull the TCC solenoid and check the valve up in the pump bore.
If you do find that valves are starting to stick, it may be a sign that something else is wrong.