Don't compensate fuel with alky. Run as much alky as you need to suppress knock, no more, than adjust your air/fuel ratio with the chip like you are doing. Tune one at a time. If you are kr free, start adding timing until you tickle kr then back it off a degree. After that, then start leaning it out a bit. If you see kr, bump the alky just a little on the gain knob; a little goes a long way, but don't add alky just because you are taking fuel away. It'll pick up more if you leave the alky set where it needs to be and not use it as a means to control AFR.
Couple things: Every car is different so no easy answer to how much is too much fuel to trim in first or any gear; depends on injectors, fuel pressure, etc. Just trim it until your car stops picking up in the 60' or shows a little kr. Secondly, stop racing the car with known bad equipment. You're just asking to push a HG. But maybe you need to change a few to get tired of doing it. Making power like a V8 with two less cylinders and less cubes always means that things need to be that much more correct to keep one of these mills together compared to a SBC or something.
Excited to see you sort this out! Get rid of those headers. I've never run them, but my T/A stock replacements don't spool like a tight set of stockers, so I can only imagine how bad real headers are on that thing.