I have abused many a 8.8. They are a very stout unit.
The axles are very weak in stock form.
Depending on the application each has an advantage (8.8 9in or 8.5). If you go to c-clip elims, then you probably want to go to 9in housing ends on any of them. That will prevent damage from long term usage.
The pinion is located much lower in the 9, that is one of the things that make them so strong, At the cost of efficiency.
If I remember correctly the 12 bolt has an 8.75 ring gear.