OMG Nooooo!!!!!

[Bescurred]

I've got a pregnant daughter. My wife wants to move her and the boyfriend in. He's unemployed. It's kind of a sore spot around here. Any thoughts or experiences? P.S. I'm a Dick

Make him join the military and become a father, I wouldn't consider abortion. Thats bull crap.

 

[jhef83]

Can't get in the military with felony conviction. He ain't no bad boy either. Stupid boy's more like it. I'm giving him a week to find work. Then we'll have our little talk.

 

[turbopete]

Discipline and responsibility

Think how much better the "kids" these days would be if their parents had spent more time teaching discipline, personal responsibility and social behavior

 

[SinistrV6]

Oh, good Lord!

And you need to ask if you should let this train wreck come live with you?!

I agree. It's time these two started taking responsibility for their actions. If you bail 'em out of this jam, THEY LEARN NOTHING!

If you must let them move in, make sure that the length of time is very specific and stick to it. And he MUST get a job AND KEEP IT!

Also, I'd watch just how "nicey nicey" he's being with the other mother of his child. He may be burning the candle at both ends.

Just my $.02

 

[Bescurred]

Can't get in the military with felony conviction. He ain't no bad boy either. Stupid boy's more like it. I'm giving him a week to find work. Then we'll have our little talk.

Actually you can, I had a dude in my basic training flight that was ordered by a judge to join or else he was going to jail. Also one of my buddies was a felon and the recrutier worked it out. If he shows promise a recrutier will do what he can to get him in. It is an option but, its a matter of choice. Its a great way to start a life for a family.

 

[turbot2496]

Let me lay it out for you jhe.... what your doing is called enableing..... you have enabled your daughter to date a 22 year old felon and have unprotected sex which is now going to produce a child out of wedlock. Now you are getting ready to enable this pathetic felon to exist without working while mooching off of you. Its time for your kid to grow up and for you to stop enableing her to be pathetic. DO NOT LET HIM MOVE IN!!!!!!..... He will stay where he's at now till he has the means to provide for his new family.(Yeah that'll happen ) Your daughter will need to look at where she's at now and figure out what her plan for the future is... ie college or going to work immediatly. Also if your daughters 18 and not attending college or trade school and just bumming around .... she needs to start paying rent.

One of the biggest problems with this fricking country is parents enableling their kids to be pathetic. Its gonna take some tough love to get this girl to grow up and start making intellegent, responsible decisions but she will never learn if she doesn't have to face the consequences of her actions.

 

[Brett Haynes]

ok im 19 and have a kid on the way . he will be here in 2 months. my girlfriend is 17 and is happy as can be . her mother is happy and they wanted me to move in and take care of things. but im not she is moveing in with me and my parents. i have a full time job as a semi trailer mech makeing 18.50 a hour and its still hard to pay bills( snap on tools ,rent ,car inc,gas and so on)
my parents are ok with it. but its up to u if u want them to move in or not.
BUT IM HAPPY AND IM GOING TO BE A DAD . AND TAKE CARE OF MY KID AND LOVE HIM.

 

[SinistrV6]

ok im 19 and have a kid on the way . he will be here in 2 months. my girlfriend is 17 and is happy as can be . her mother is happy and they wanted me to move in and take care of things. but im not she is moveing in with me and my parents. i have a full time job as a semi trailer mech makeing 18.50 a hour and its still hard to pay bills( snap on tools ,rent ,car inc,gas and so on)
my parents are ok with it. but its up to u if u want them to move in or not.
BUT IM HAPPY AND IM GOING TO BE A DAD . AND TAKE CARE OF MY KID AND LOVE HIM.

Glad you're happy about being a dad and congratulations on the baby. I'll bet your signature changes soon if you're living in Mommy and Daddy's house! If not, you're not doing everything you could to get out on your own and support your new family. Or maybe the sig is just a "one day I want to have a 10 sec car" sort of thing. Either way, I hope it works out well for you.

Since you interjected your situation into this discussion, I'm assuming you're open to a little pubic scrutiny. I'd never let my 16 yr old daughter date an 18 yr old man. That's just me. If he's still interested when he's 20 and she's 18, come back around and let's discuss it (of course, I'll have her shipped off to college by then and she'll have a much broader selection of men and a new outlook on what her options are!)

 

[Brett Haynes]

i have been with her since i was 16 . im going to build a house on my dads land. in the next year

 

[Brett Haynes]

oh ya and as the 10 sec car goes that almost done in the next month

 

[Blaze]

Let me lay it out for you jhe.... what your doing is called enableing..... you have enabled your daughter to date a 22 year old felon and have unprotected sex which is now going to produce a child out of wedlock. Now you are getting ready to enable this pathetic felon to exist without working while mooching off of you. Its time for your kid to grow up and for you to stop enableing her to be pathetic. DO NOT LET HIM MOVE IN!!!!!!..... He will stay where he's at now till he has the means to provide for his new family.(Yeah that'll happen ) Your daughter will need to look at where she's at now and figure out what her plan for the future is... ie college or going to work immediatly. Also if your daughters 18 and not attending college or trade school and just bumming around .... she needs to start paying rent.

One of the biggest problems with this fricking country is parents enableling their kids to be pathetic. Its gonna take some tough love to get this girl to grow up and start making intellegent, responsible decisions but she will never learn if she doesn't have to face the consequences of her actions.

I couldn't have said it better myself

 

[turbot2496]

"ok im 19 and have a kid on the way . he will be here in 2 months. my girlfriend is 17 and is happy as can be . her mother is happy and they wanted me to move in and take care of things. but im not she is moveing in with me and my parents. i have a full time job as a semi trailer mech makeing 18.50 a hour and its still hard to pay bills( snap on tools ,rent ,car inc,gas and so on)
my parents are ok with it. but its up to u if u want them to move in or not.
BUT IM HAPPY AND IM GOING TO BE A DAD . AND TAKE CARE OF MY KID AND LOVE HIM. "
Yesterday 07:19 PM



Hey Brett, I gotta question for ya. Whats the big fricking hurry???? You had your whole life to have a kid. Your smart enough to build a 10 sec buick..... yet you can't figure out how to use a condom???? Yeah I'm sure her parents... your parents ... oh everybodys parents are really happy you knocked up your 17 year old girlfriend

Its time to step out of LA LA land and realize you f'd up. I'm glad to hear your taking some responsibility but its obvious by the tone of your post that you still think you've made intellegent decisions. Well I got a few questions for ya buddy so see if you can keep up.

1. Who's gonna pay for all the hospital expenses?
2. Do you have any ideal what they will cost?
3. Does your job provide insurance that can cover these expenses or the baby after its born?
4. What does it cost to raise a child? Do you really have any earthly ideal?
5. Is it smart or loving or responsible to bring a life into this world that you have no ideal whether or not you have the resources to support????

Just a few to start your gears turning but there are a ton more and I'm sure other fathers can toss em out to ya.... and newsflash let me tell ya .... your parents aint' proud, happy or otherwise that you f'd up. I imagine their trying to be cool for the sake of the baby and to keep peace, and I also imagine you'll keep mooching off of them and sucking up their good graces until they throw you out.

In closing Brett... its time to grow up and get it together and face facts You decided to be a dad at a young age and probably put no more thought into it than what new part you want for your buick. This child you decided to bring into the world is now the most important thing in your life. Every decision you make from now on is in the best interest of that child. If your income is limited and your living with your parents then theres going to be.... no more 10 sec buicks... all that cash is going for diapers and insurance and pediatricians and formula and medicine and ............

Also if your 19, living with your parents and working, you should be paying rent and your own car insurance. Pay for some grocerys every now and then too cause I'm sure your eating them.

 

[Brett Haynes]

1. Who's gonna pay for all the hospital expenses?
2. Do you have any ideal what they will cost?
3. Does your job provide insurance that can cover these expenses or the baby after its born?
4. What does it cost to raise a child? Do you really have any earthly ideal?
5. Is it smart or loving or responsible to bring a life into this world that you have no ideal whether or not you have the resources to support????




answer 1 - i am .i out her on my insurance 2 months ago when i found out

answer 2- ya i do know a lot more thrn u think i do and i now i ****ed up. We did use a condon and it broke on us so ya

answer 3 -yes it does

answer 4- i am doing the right thing by takeing care of my son. just bc im young doent meen i can should give up my son come on man



im not in la la land man. i do pay for my own car insurance pay for all my snap on tool and box. Pay for grocerys every week

i might be young but im doing the right thing by doing this if u cant see that then im sorry trash me if u want i dont care

i will be doing what ever it takes sell my car get 2 jobs or what ever




u wanna ask some more??

 

[SinistrV6]

i will be doing what ever it takes sell my car get 2 jobs or what ever

Sounds to me like a young guy in a tough situation, who's doing what's necessary to make the best of it for all concerned. You can't ask for much more than that. Congratulations on the baby , and good luck too all of you.

 

[mazdatech78]

First off, dont let that punk move in with you. He is a born loser and will always be a loser. And no offense but your daughter doesnt sound to bright for dating an ex-con. If you want your daughter to have any chance at a real life. Adoption/abortion is the only answer. If not she will be saddled with this loser for a very long time. If I were a betting man, I bet this dude doesnt stick around till the kids 1st birthday. Ive seen it before, and Ive seen the aftermath. Its not pretty.

As for the 19yo being all happy about knocking up is 17yo girlfriend. Are you kidding me? I had a kid at 17 and the last thing on my mind was happy! Dont get me wrong, I wouldnt trade my son for anything in the world, but I wish I would have waited until I was older. I also laughed out loud when I read that you still live with your parents. Let me get this straight, you make $18.50 an hour and cant afford to get your own place. Shows your maturity level. Too busy building a f*cking car and not saving money for a house or apartment. I moved out 3 weeks after my 18th B-day and moved my girlfriend and kid with me. I made $6.00 an hr. So..whats wrong with you??? FYI..a 10sec Buick would make a nice down payment on a house. But what do you care, you can still mooch off your parents!
Say all you want back. I lived this first hand and you have no idea about what being a responsible dad is all about. Period

James

 

[Brett Haynes]

mazdatech78









i am building a house so ya
and i am happy . and i take it that u belive in Adoption that just goes to show what u stand for

BEFOR U TRASH ME READ WHAT I SAID BEFOR I PAY ALL MY BILLS U ****ING ASS HOLE DONT TRASH ME U HAVE NO CLUE U DICK I SAID I WOULD SELL MY CAR IF IT CAME DOWN TO IT

 

[mazdatech78]

If you dont want to get flamed, dont post on a public message board. If you are building a house. How do you have time to build a car too? Put down the wrench a pick up a hammer. I have a house that I dont need to work on and still hardly have any time to get my car back together. I have no compassion for people that live with their parents after high school unless you are going to collage, and since you are working, this means you! IMO it doesnt show maturity. BTW.. paying your bills means sh*t. Welfare moms pay their bills. Do you want a cookie now?

James

 

[sixgun86gn]

No kidding.I was paying for a house ,2 truck payments,food,bills,raising a 2 yr old stepdaughter....all on $15 an hour.Now I make around $25 an hour and have a son too.I took care of business first,cars came after I could take care of the family and still had money I could spend.Beleive me,I would love to do more with my car,but time and money are not just flowing out of my ears.It has taken 3 years and selling alot of parts to afford the new motor I have coming.It will take at least another year to get the rest of the stuff needed just to start it.


Matter of fact I would like to thank my wife again,because I would not have ever had a GN (bought with my money)if she hadn't paid off our house for me when her grandmother left her some $$. I say she paid it off for me because she did it out of appreciation for taking care of her and the kids,not to mention save me a boatload on interest.LOL. I told her I wanted no part of her $$.Needless to say,this is HER house if anything ever happens between us.She could have just blown it,but she did a responsible thing by paying off our house.

Nobody wants to do what they NEED to with their $$,they want to do what they WANT to with it.


You should be concentrating on that house and forget about that car until you can afford groceries,lights,gas,water,insurance(car,house,and health),mortgage,car payment (because I KNOW you aint driving that GN)furniture,baby needs,wife needs,money for emergencies,clothes,shoes,toys,etc.and then when you have money left over...use about half of that.Beleive me you will be happier if you don't use up all of your extra cash after responsibilities.

 

[Brett Haynes]

i see your point and the only reason im finishing my car isi have all the stuff to do like i said befor i will sell it if i have to.. and i do have a lot saved up so that helps some.

oh ya mazdatech78


if i wasnt maturit i wouldnt be takeing care of my kid i might be young but that dont meen i cant be a good father to my son.

 

[mazdatech78]

I hope that you will be a good father to your son. Nothing is more important to a boy growing up than a father around who actually gives a sh*t. Just make a good home for him and his mother.

James