TurboJunky
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Let's hear some truthful responses....
What's the REAL reason you chose to have kids?
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TurboJunky
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A real answer...outstanding. I have to ask, how would you know it's the most rewarding experience if you've never done it before? Wouldn't that be something you found out after the fact?Originally posted by DKREDT
Because my wife and I knew it would be the most rewarding experience we have ever had in our life together.
It has been.
Adam is 3, Ben is 1.
They are AWESOME!
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My sister and her husband had kids first and our proximity to them made us know it was right for us. We planned for a couple of years and got in a position financially where my wife could "retire" for a couple of years and could stay home.
I know kids are a "surprise" to some. We planned for it and made sure we were 100% ready for the responsibility and change they bring to our lifestyle.
It is a LOT of work and sometimes frustrating, BUT when your kids runs and hugs you the minute you walk in the door at night... it is ALL good!
Joel
My sister and her husband had kids first and our proximity to them made us know it was right for us. We planned for a couple of years and got in a position financially where my wife could "retire" for a couple of years and could stay home.
I know kids are a "surprise" to some. We planned for it and made sure we were 100% ready for the responsibility and change they bring to our lifestyle.
It is a LOT of work and sometimes frustrating, BUT when your kids runs and hugs you the minute you walk in the door at night... it is ALL good!
Joel
No brothers, someone to carry on the name, Oh yea, my wife and I have two girls as well.
I cuss them all on a daily basis, but I'd do it all over again.
Our children are 21, 20 and oooopppps 14, rain day. The youngest was a gift, born on my birthday....
Maybe I should rephrase that, they were all gift's, just that one came at a special time for me.
I cuss them all on a daily basis, but I'd do it all over again.
Our children are 21, 20 and oooopppps 14, rain day. The youngest was a gift, born on my birthday....
Maybe I should rephrase that, they were all gift's, just that one came at a special time for me.
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I applaud good parents who make unmeasureable sacrifices to raise quality children.
Just about anyone can have kids, it takes special people to be GOOD parents.
Just about anyone can have kids, it takes special people to be GOOD parents.
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When the time was right, we just knew it would be an incredible experience. No doubt that it would be rewarding, but hard work. Well, it has been more rewarding, and less work than anticipated. It's not exactly work, but stressful. It is a GREAT way of life overall, and our marriage is even better for it. Time for another? 
Can't wait, the time is right again. 
On a social note, which was also a factor, I see more big families coming from people that don't contribute to society (not all, but most all I've seen). I also see a lot of great people either not having kids, or only having 1. I think that's a scary ratio. I think the "dumbening of America" is partially for this reason. I think that my wife and I are pretty good people, and we should at least replace ourselves in society, if not add to it. Tired of seeing non-working (but able bodied and minded) people living off of the government, because they can, or make money off the books, getting paid to have kids and raise them to grow up with the same mentality. IMO, the wrong people are having a population boom, but the most productive people are holding back like they don't have the time. It'll come around one day when there aren't enough people working to support those that won't (notice I didn't say "can't). I once met a guy that had 15 kids with 8 different women. They all knew each other and got along fine. None were married. WTF? The percentage of kids born to NORMAL families is dropping incredibly. Someone needs to make sure some of the kids are raised right and in a good home.
Not reason enough to have kids if you aren't ready and committed, but to me, it is a factor. Just my $1.02
Can't wait, the time is right again. On a social note, which was also a factor, I see more big families coming from people that don't contribute to society (not all, but most all I've seen). I also see a lot of great people either not having kids, or only having 1. I think that's a scary ratio. I think the "dumbening of America" is partially for this reason. I think that my wife and I are pretty good people, and we should at least replace ourselves in society, if not add to it. Tired of seeing non-working (but able bodied and minded) people living off of the government, because they can, or make money off the books, getting paid to have kids and raise them to grow up with the same mentality. IMO, the wrong people are having a population boom, but the most productive people are holding back like they don't have the time. It'll come around one day when there aren't enough people working to support those that won't (notice I didn't say "can't). I once met a guy that had 15 kids with 8 different women. They all knew each other and got along fine. None were married. WTF? The percentage of kids born to NORMAL families is dropping incredibly. Someone needs to make sure some of the kids are raised right and in a good home.
Not reason enough to have kids if you aren't ready and committed, but to me, it is a factor. Just my $1.02
Originally posted by DKREDT
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My sister and her husband had kids first and our proximity to them made us know it was right for us. We planned for a couple of years and got in a position financially where my wife could "retire" for a couple of years and could stay home.
I know kids are a "surprise" to some. We planned for it and made sure we were 100% ready for the responsibility and change they bring to our lifestyle.
It is a LOT of work and sometimes frustrating, BUT when your kids runs and hugs you the minute you walk in the door at night... it is ALL good!
Joel
I cannot BEGIN to tell you how much I applaud that approach and outlook on having children. I grow so disappointed over seeing 'suprises' and irresponsible planning of the life of a child.
I truly think you will have a rewarding and positive experience with this part of your life and I wish you nothing but the best.
Reason I went so far out on that is because I'm a teacher and I deal with MANY children. It kills me to see so many situations that could have been easily avoided if parents had placed that amount of importance on the planning and preperation of bearing children.
As for myself... I have no plans for children for many years. My g/f (read:wife someday) and I have had extensive conversations about this and realize we don't want children until we are good and ready. That is if we DO indeed decide we want children at all.
Children truly are a gift to a life. As much of a curse that we make them out to be, it can't go without saying that those who have the priviledge of enjoying a family are blessed.
Sorry if I didn't answer your question right. Just felt like chiming in.
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my parents told me the condom broke, what ever that means.
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I have 6 kids.
My first was by accident (stupidity) but I have parents that have stayed with each other since they married at the age of 19. They are now 54.
I knew I always wanted a family. My first daughter is 9 now.
She was and still is my best friend. I went through some dark times and I kid you not when I say she was my one true source of happiness.
I met my wife 4 years ago. She had 4 from her first marriage. Their Dad died at the age of 31 from his third major heart attack. They call me Dad now and they dont think twice about it. They were 10, 8, 6, and 4 when I met them.
Yes we are like The Brady Bunch.
My wife wanted to give me the one thing I did not have from all of these kids. A baby of our own that was with us all of the time.
I got to watch Savannah be born, I get to watch her all of the time. She never leaves to go to Moms house. And she is very much like my first daughter. All of which makes me smile no matter how bad the day is.
With this bunch it has not been easy but it is worth every bit of effort and heartache it takes.
I have a 14 year old son who is not mine by birth. His birthday is Jan 7 mine is the 9th. He is more like me than I care to admit.
My 12 year old is off in his own universe. That is just him. It is funny.
My first daughter, mine, is 9 and she is more of an adult than a kid. She loves me no matter what. She will be the playmate I think. It is just her.
The other 9 year old will be in boots, shorts and drive a Jeep. She is such a tomboy. She beats the hell out the boys and they are bigger.
The 6 year old talks non stop. She has a future as a DJ, I think.
My 2 year old is my happiness and Daddies girl so bad it makes my wife mad. I dont mind though.
That is why I am crazy for having 6 kids. Thats my job.
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My first was by accident (stupidity) but I have parents that have stayed with each other since they married at the age of 19. They are now 54.
I knew I always wanted a family. My first daughter is 9 now.
She was and still is my best friend. I went through some dark times and I kid you not when I say she was my one true source of happiness.
I met my wife 4 years ago. She had 4 from her first marriage. Their Dad died at the age of 31 from his third major heart attack. They call me Dad now and they dont think twice about it. They were 10, 8, 6, and 4 when I met them.
Yes we are like The Brady Bunch.
My wife wanted to give me the one thing I did not have from all of these kids. A baby of our own that was with us all of the time.
I got to watch Savannah be born, I get to watch her all of the time. She never leaves to go to Moms house. And she is very much like my first daughter. All of which makes me smile no matter how bad the day is.
With this bunch it has not been easy but it is worth every bit of effort and heartache it takes.
I have a 14 year old son who is not mine by birth. His birthday is Jan 7 mine is the 9th. He is more like me than I care to admit.
My 12 year old is off in his own universe. That is just him. It is funny.
My first daughter, mine, is 9 and she is more of an adult than a kid. She loves me no matter what. She will be the playmate I think. It is just her.
The other 9 year old will be in boots, shorts and drive a Jeep. She is such a tomboy. She beats the hell out the boys and they are bigger.
The 6 year old talks non stop. She has a future as a DJ, I think.
My 2 year old is my happiness and Daddies girl so bad it makes my wife mad. I dont mind though.
That is why I am crazy for having 6 kids. Thats my job.
http://www.imagestation.com/album/?id=4289562929
My first was an accident, but not a careless accident.
My wife and i had been married 8 months. WE had used the pill for the 4 years including dating and marrage. She started taking a vitaman/supplement called St jons wort. Her monthlys became irregular and , oops, pregnant.
Well after the birth of my daughter i was watching cnn while feeding her a bottle. News came on: " Studies that the popular suppliment st jons wort has the same affect as an antiboitic on some birth control pills, effectivly nutralizing them....... "
To little to late. But i wouldnt trade her or her PLANNED brother for anything.
My wife and i had been married 8 months. WE had used the pill for the 4 years including dating and marrage. She started taking a vitaman/supplement called St jons wort. Her monthlys became irregular and , oops, pregnant.
Well after the birth of my daughter i was watching cnn while feeding her a bottle. News came on: " Studies that the popular suppliment st jons wort has the same affect as an antiboitic on some birth control pills, effectivly nutralizing them....... "
To little to late. But i wouldnt trade her or her PLANNED brother for anything.
Nothing better on this Earth!!
Some great responses, gang! Exactly what I'd expect from a first-class bunch like this. I have two kids. Mason is almost 3 years old and gives me new reasons to love him every day. Presley is 17 months old and a real "Daddy's girl". Due to a difficult delivery and an emergency C-section, she gave me the scariest day of my life. I thought I was gonna lose her and her mom (my best friend) at the same time. Both came through fine and you'd never know now that she was 7 weeks early. We started having kids later than most. I was 34 and my wife was 33. First children for both of us. Presley was planned but not quite so soon! Becky (my wife) started back to college shortly after my son was born. Then got pregnant and had a baby while in the final year of Nursing School!! I can't begin to tell you how proud I am of her! It was a tough time financially and emotionally but now that she's an RN we know it was worth it!
Back to the kids; nothing, nothing, nothing has ever been a bigger blessing in my life!
Some great responses, gang! Exactly what I'd expect from a first-class bunch like this. I have two kids. Mason is almost 3 years old and gives me new reasons to love him every day. Presley is 17 months old and a real "Daddy's girl". Due to a difficult delivery and an emergency C-section, she gave me the scariest day of my life. I thought I was gonna lose her and her mom (my best friend) at the same time. Both came through fine and you'd never know now that she was 7 weeks early. We started having kids later than most. I was 34 and my wife was 33. First children for both of us. Presley was planned but not quite so soon! Becky (my wife) started back to college shortly after my son was born. Then got pregnant and had a baby while in the final year of Nursing School!! I can't begin to tell you how proud I am of her! It was a tough time financially and emotionally but now that she's an RN we know it was worth it!
Back to the kids; nothing, nothing, nothing has ever been a bigger blessing in my life!
For me i really dont think there is a real answer. My wife and i knew from the time we met that we wanted children. I knew deep inside that i was always going to be a dad. Maybe it came from my background, but its something you just know.
Our son was delivered 2 months early, and was in NICU for 30 days before he came home.It was a very touh time. I questioned the above beliefs then believeing that maybe i was not going to be a dad for long.
But thank GOD our son pulled through just fine and My inner feelings were always correct.
Now our boy is 9 months old and very healthy. WE are enjoying him and our lives better than ever.
Our son was delivered 2 months early, and was in NICU for 30 days before he came home.It was a very touh time. I questioned the above beliefs then believeing that maybe i was not going to be a dad for long.
But thank GOD our son pulled through just fine and My inner feelings were always correct.
Now our boy is 9 months old and very healthy. WE are enjoying him and our lives better than ever.
TurboJunky
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Great responses definitely, which is what I was looking for.
My wife and I are childless and when we tell people it seems to illicit an odd reaction. Seems it's "expected" couples procreate.
I agree wholeheartedly the wrong segment of the population is duplicating itself in mass quantities, completely opposite of the way it should be. This society is going in the wrong direction. Those who desire to do good, make life a positive experience, and respect others is shrinking while those who burden society and government is growing exponentially.
Again, my hat's off to those of you parents who actually view their kids as a blessing and not a burden.
<stands and applauds>
My wife and I are childless and when we tell people it seems to illicit an odd reaction. Seems it's "expected" couples procreate.
I agree wholeheartedly the wrong segment of the population is duplicating itself in mass quantities, completely opposite of the way it should be. This society is going in the wrong direction. Those who desire to do good, make life a positive experience, and respect others is shrinking while those who burden society and government is growing exponentially.
Again, my hat's off to those of you parents who actually view their kids as a blessing and not a burden.
<stands and applauds>
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OMG! This is a hoot! I think they all start out as a blessing & become a burdon after 12years old.
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