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GNflyby

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Be honest.


I've asked people this recently and most people say "oh no, I think we go to a better place" or "oh no, what's the point? when you go you go and you don't know anything about it".

Yet if I were to press a gun to their temple and start counting down from 10, I suspect they'd be pleading to let them live.

I've thought about it and I've decided what I'm scared of is not living before it happens. Also I don't want to leave my children without a dad, leave my wife alone and more to the point I just don't want to stop existing.

How about you?
 
I am not afraid of dying.I am afraid of not getting to live up to my expectations before it is all over though.

I HAVE been held at gunpoint and even shot at before.I never once worried about dying.I work a job that involves serious heights (elevator constructor) and everybody asks if I am afraid of falling to my death or being crushed.NOPE.I AM afraid of falling and living the rest of my life as a quadraplegic or a vegetable and being a burden on my family.I would just rather die than that.

Live like there is no tommorrow and enjoy every minute you can.Keep this in mind and you will definitely be motivated to make every minute you have control of count.
 
I'm sure that no one really likes the idea of dying, however, it's an appointment that we will all keep at one time or another. The only reason to fear death is if you don't know what happens to you afterward. We will definitely spend eternity somewhere. Our spirit continues to live after our bodies have died. We will have knowledge of where we are.
The Bible says that we can know for sure where we will spend eternity. It also says that we must do three things in order to know this:
1. Acknowledge that you are a sinner. (We all are.)
2. Believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins.
3. Believe that Jesus Christ rose from the dead in three days. (If He didn't, He was just a man.)

The lack of fear comes with knowing that you'll spend eternity in Heaven with Jesus.
I'm not trying to preach to you or anything. I just hope that I have helped. No one should fear death. :)
 
If I put in a good 70-75 years and live a nice happy fulfilled life i'd have no qualms passing on. But to answer the question about being afraid of dying i'd have to say somewhat worried, i'd be worried for my family, friends, ect. But I can live my life happily knowing that I will soon parish just like the rest of you.
 
Hell yeah, I am afraid of dying. It scares me not knowing what really happens after death.I dont stress on it but Id be lying if I said Im not scared. Whatever kills me, I am almost positive it will hurt really bad. Even worse than gas pains, and I dont want to spend my last minutes hurting like that. The only justification for not being scared to die is suicidal depression or really old age. There is entirely too much fun stuff Im wanting to do before I die, and several movies I still want to see.;)
 
I am afraid of dying because my family needs me. I want to see my daughters grow up.

If I were to die, I'd want it to be in my sleep, or a shot to the brain. I am scared of cancer though.... it'll whittle a man to nothing before it spits you out like a piece of ****... my family dealing with THAT scares me.

Otherwise, no, I am not afraid of dying.
 
Originally posted by sixgun86gn
I am not afraid of dying.I am afraid of not getting to live up to my expectations before it is all over though.

I HAVE been held at gunpoint and even shot at before.I never once worried about dying.I work a job that involves serious heights (elevator constructor) and everybody asks if I am afraid of falling to my death or being crushed.NOPE.I AM afraid of falling and living the rest of my life as a quadraplegic or a vegetable and being a burden on my family.I would just rather die than that.

Live like there is no tommorrow and enjoy every minute you can.Keep this in mind and you will definitely be motivated to make every minute you have control of count.

i have the same worries as you do sixgun, i'm also an elevator constructor( i.u.e.c. local #71) i'm sure you and i have had plenty of close calls, but one of my close calls left me with very little use of my right hand ( it was ripped off and crushed by the roller guides, due to a faulty stop switch:( this was in the hatch 11 floors up) what i was thinking when all this blood was gushing out is what going to happen to my family-i have a wife and 2-boys, i worried more about them than for myself leaving behind 2 boys ages 10, 14 and a wife of 16yrs really scared me .

i'm pretty sure every man in here with a family will think the same way i did. It's the family and friends you leave behind who suffer the most.
 
someone once told me " everyday we rise, is a day closer to death" i told him yeah but it takes alot of sunrises to get there:D
 
My dad died when he was 44. If i make to 45, I guess im doing allright.
My wife hates it when I say that.
As I get older, I think it about it more often. Not necessarely scared of death, I just dont want it to happen just yet. Life is good at 40. I hear its even better at 50.
I'm 41 now.

Craig
 
Originally posted by no-nos
i have the same worries as you do sixgun, i'm also an elevator constructor( i.u.e.c. local #71) i'm sure you and i have had plenty of close calls, but one of my close calls left me with very little use of my right hand ( it was ripped off and crushed by the roller guides, due to a faulty stop switch:( this was in the hatch 11 floors up) what i was thinking when all this blood was gushing out is what going to happen to my family-i have a wife and 2-boys, i worried more about them than for myself leaving behind 2 boys ages 10, 14 and a wife of 16yrs really scared me .

i'm pretty sure every man in here with a family will think the same way i did. It's the family and friends you leave behind who suffer the most.

I am sorry to hear about your injury.No doubt it was probably a very old or low quality foreign made switch that caused it.All it takes is a faulty set of contacts to ruin your day/life.You know what I mean.

Yes I have definitely had my fair share of close calls.You cant work our trade without them,safety training helps but it doesn't protect you in all cases.That is why we just get used to the fact that we might not come home someday no matter how safe we try to be.

We recently buried a few guys here in the last 6 months here in local #21.All from being complacent.Gotta keep alert.

We have a probationary helper that just last friday lost his 4 year old son.The kid was hit by a truck right in front of his eyes while they were playing in the yard.Now THAT is a fate worse than death to me.I fear the loss of one of my children more than anything.They are all I live for.
 
Originally posted by sixgun86gn
I am sorry to hear about your injury.No doubt it was probably a very old or low quality foreign made switch that caused it.All it takes is a faulty set of contacts to ruin your day/life.You know what I mean.

Yes I have definitely had my fair share of close calls.You cant work our trade without them,safety training helps but it doesn't protect you in all cases.That is why we just get used to the fact that we might not come home someday no matter how safe we try to be.

We recently buried a few guys here in the last 6 months here in local #21.All from being complacent.Gotta keep alert.

We have a probationary helper that just last friday lost his 4 year old son.The kid was hit by a truck right in front of his eyes while they were playing in the yard.Now THAT is a fate worse than death to me.I fear the loss of one of my children more than anything.They are all I live for.

oh my god six, that is the worse thing i could ever imagine i have 2 boys and that is horrible, give the brother my deepest condolences, and please keep an eye on him at work, you know what i mean
 
I want to die in my sleep like my grandfather, Not like the passengers that were screaming in his car at the time
Sorry, always liked that line:D
 
I look at mortality in the fact it's something we'll have to face eventually. Fear it? Sure, fearing the unknown is logical, as is fear it's self. Fear is rational, what people do when they're afraid is what's not. Fear keeps one from doing something that makes them find out what happens when you die that much quicker. My thoughts are one should enjoy their life, rather then worry about it's end. This is why I hate to think about death, it makes me have so many regrets about things I should have done in the past but never did, people I owe apologies and thanks to that I'll never be able to give, people that I quite frankly should have defended my honor against but backed down. Oh well, enough of that.
 
Yes it is something we all have to face eventually. Fortunatly we have no way of knowing when or where. I have to say the death part of the whole thing does not scare me really. Sure I am not anxious to die or anything, but what really scares me like many of you is leaving my wife behind. I know she needs me. The unknown thing kinda scares me to, the not knowing if there is something more after we pass or is that just it. The questions that everyone has ask since day 1 I suppose. However I go I hope it is fast and not dragging on in a rest home being a burden to my family and such. In my sleep or a shot to the head like a guy said earlier.

Either way I go I hope there is a long line of Hot Rod Regals and other fast cars in my funeral procession. That way I could go out with class! ;)
 
Originally posted by GNflyby
... I don't want to leave my children without a dad, leave my wife alone and more to the point I just don't want to stop existing. How about you?
I feel same way.

Any of you had general anaesthetic for surgery? It's creepy. Absolutely no memory, or any sense of, the passage of time. No dreams. Nothingness. Even a deep sleep doesn't deprive you of the feeling of "existence".

If you didn't wake up (perish the thought), you'd never know it (as silly as that sounds).

So I happen to believe that death might "feel" like anaesthesia, and I want NONE of it ...
 
Re: Re: Are you afraid of dying?

Originally posted by tom h
I feel same way.

Any of you had general anaesthetic for surgery? It's creepy. Absolutely no memory, or any sense of, the passage of time. No dreams. Nothingness. Even a deep sleep doesn't deprive you of the feeling of "existence".

If you didn't wake up (perish the thought), you'd never know it (as silly as that sounds).

So I happen to believe that death might "feel" like anaesthesia, and I want NONE of it ...

Yes I have... was in a pretty bad motorcycle accident on March 24th, '03. Badly separated my right shoulder, and crushed my right wrist. I had to have an external fixator (brace) bolted into my arm with pins going every which way to hold everything together.
Was I afraid of dying? No, it happened too fast. Afterwards I felt a bit like I was in the twilight zone, but I wasn't scared at all, just a bit dazed. I went through one day of feeling a little timid, but after that, I was ready to jump right back onto another bike (And I did in Dec of the same year). I'm not looking to die, but I'm not going to live my life being afraid of everything.
As far as the anesthesia goes, I didn't have a problem with it at all.... Hell I don't remember anything about it, just drifting off into la la land. That's the only way to go if you ask me, it doesn't hurt :D

Here's a pic of my fixator, just for entertainment value :p . And no, that wasn't fun at all, especially having to take an alcohol dipped q-tip and pushing the skin away from the pins everyday to keep it from fusing to the metal :D . OK, I'll stop ;)

fixator4-10-03.jpg
 
Death is just another step in living

Death is inevitable. Have you heard the song by Tim McGraw, "Live Like You Were Dying"? It is an awesome song (and I don't even like country) with a great message.

We SHOULD live as if every day is our last one. It is way too easy to take for granted the gifts we have in living this life.

A person where I work was living his normal, everyday, hum-drum life and suddenly fell over with an apparent problem or some sort of seizure. After a battery of tests he was told that he only has ~18 months to live. Seems he has a spider web brain tumor that will take him out.

He's only in his early 40's and he has a family.

His life WAS normal and routine - now, he knows that it will end.

Soon. Too soon.

And, with the type of cancer he has, it will not be quick nor will it be painless. I feel so sorry for him and his family. His life as he knew it up to the second before he fell over was one way; now, it is an entirely different type of 'life'. He must live as if he is dying - because he is.

But aren't we all - really?

THAT is why we should never take our lives, our familes, our children, or even the next breath for granted. You just never know when it will end but it WILL end, that is for certain.

The thing that would bother me about dying would be if I had had a falling out with someone and never got the chance or took the time to mend the relationship.

And I agree - losing one of your children would be worse than death itself.

I do not 'fear' death, per se, because I am a Christian. I just do not want to suffer or to cause my family and friends to suffer in my dying.

I know that there IS indeed a better life that awaits me. But I sure DO love the life I am living now.
 
dying

dying is the final adventure, when you are young you dont think about it. when you get old that changes things, dying dont bother me . seeing your family members and friends that have passed on before you, when you get closer to death you appreate life more, you see things totally different ever day is a nice day, because some friends and family didnt see this day, im 64 years old and love to race my regal and ride my old harley and my horse sometimes and i have had four operations for cancer im supposed to be cured now, so when you come close to dying you try not to think about it, thanks for letting me post,:) oc,
 
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