finally...got to see my baby!

[dartguy340]

I am editing this because it shows up when you do a search:

Only a few members know what I have been dealing with for over 14 months and now I want to let
everyone know. I became a Father almost 3 years ago to a little girl. Long story short, been to court
5 times, finally got to see her last tuesday after waiting this long. This is the only child I have and I
love her dearly! I want to thank everyone who have prayed for me and for things to get worked out.
Here is a pic of her, she will be 3 in november. steve

 

[BARRACUDA1968]

I couldn't imagine what going through that would be like but I'm happy to see you're making progress getting your life with your daughter back together.

She is very cute!

 

[dartguy340]

Thanks much!

 

[turboclam]

She needs her Daddy, keep pursuing. She's a doll!

 

[JimP]

Be the best father you can. Don't give anyone the opportunity to say that you didn't do absolutely everything that you could to make her a part of your life and for you to be a part of hers.

 

[larry33kc]

I would think that a good lawyer could use all of the deception on the mothers part as being unstable and immature and harmful for the child. Don't hesitate to keep fighting. Remember the child is the one that suffers in the end.

I speak from experience, I didn't get my son from his mother soon enough and has some major issues from his time with her because of her games. I wish I got him years sooner.
Can't worry about being a nice guy because they don't care themselves so screw her and do what needs to be done for the child.

Hell I even had to deal with this stuff with my own parents ( I'm adopted) I found my real mom and we meet everything was good she tells me her story which somewhat matched what I have always been told all my life ( she was 17 he was 2? Something. When he found out he left) her story was the same except it was he wouldn't work wouldn't get a job lived with grandma stealing her money so she put me up for adoption. Well she starts acting weird and we loose communication. My wife keeps bugging her for more info on my dad and really got nothing from her. Well 10 years later she sends me some letters to my dad and I was able to find him from that.
I get ahold a person on FB who ends up being my younger brother. My wife starts asking about a name from the letters that was my dads grandfather and he said yes that's him and asked who we are my wife told him about me and sent a pic. He quickly sent back a pic and said there is no doubt I'm his brother. We looked like twins.

He told my dad the next morning and after talking with him he had no idea about me. It comes to find out that my dad was a pitcher for the STLouis Cards and she was a groupy.
She withheld information from me for 10 years. Even telling me they met and lived in totally different states. All I had was a pic of my dad she had gave. After 10 years of my wife bugging her she finally gave us the letters that had his grandfathers name (which was a rare name) in it and that's how I found my real family.

I talk to him every day and I hate phones, and go and see him every weekend I have off.

Don't let her play the games and don't get sucked into the games either. Do what you have to do as a parent and NOT a friend and your daughter will see it in the long run.

Best wishes and enjoy your time with her always.

 

[dartguy340]

Thanks to all of you guys for your kind words. I appreciate it very much!
Both of my parents passed away before I got a chance to take my daughter
to them, although 3 weeks before Mom died I was able to show her a pic of my Angel.

 

[dartguy340]

larry33kc: Wow, what a story you have also. I wish you luck, and thank you. The lawyer wrote
her 2 months ago stating that I will be seeking fees, costs and sanctions against her for
making false statements to the court. It has been a battle but I will never give up!

 

[turbojoe1]

My gosh Steve, this is sad. do everything you can to give that beautiful little girl the world. I am sorry to have read about this misfortune, I can not believe the things some women do and get away with. I hope all works out well in your daughters and your way. Keep on being positive, more good things will come, maybe even a genuine caring women with pure intentions will be in your future. The strangest things can happen during or right after hard times. I wish you two the best

 

[dartguy340]

turbojoe1: Thank you sir, I appreciate it. I thought that things would go more smoothly since being
adjudicated as the Father. But, just tuesday, when I went to see her for one hour at a public playground,
she was texting all the while I was there. I get home and see that the lawyer emailed me saying her "friend"
emailed him and that my brother was with me and that she thought we were making rude comments about
her to each other, which of course we did not. I had brought him with because he has seen my daughter in the
past and he is a photographer.
Thanks again...

 

[buickpassed]

Always keep your little girl your main focus I went through some nasty stuff when I had my first kid And raised him for the first 7yrs of his life Dont get nasty and as much of a pain it may be keep a smile on your face and never show anger That woman sounlds like she is just looking for chit DONT PLAY INTO HER Kids grow up fast the kid I was telling you about is 25 now Button line your little girl needs a father to be a father It will all work out

 

[dartguy340]

buickpassed: I have never shown any anger since
she started withholding her from me. It will work out and some
day she will know what took place. thank you.

 

[Steve V]

Congrats she is a doll baby! I have a 2yr old and can't imagine what you've been through. They grow up so fast, we must cherish every moment.

 

[dartguy340]

X2, Steve V... thank you, they grow up way too fast!
I hope this gets better as time goes on.

 

[faster]

You and her will always be in my prayers. Never give up is all I will say, never.

Mikey

 

[dartguy340]

Mikey: That little girl is all I have besides my 6 younger siblings.
I will never give up! Thanks for your prayers, I appreciate it.

 

[dartguy340]

I got to see my little darling again this afternoon. It is so tough
when I have to leave her, it just tears me up inside...I pray to
God everyday that things will get better. Have a good night everyone!

 

[czimpel]

Good Luck dartguy340, you're doing the right thing!

 

[Nasty Wendy]

Got you in my prayers. Its hard to fathom why someone would want to deprive their own daughter of having a father. Father and daughter relationships are extremely special to the child. I say that because its obvious that the mother doesn't care how special it is to you but to do that to her own daughter ..... Good luck with your mission. She is adorable.

 

[dartguy340]

Clay: I agree with you 100%....She is a very vindictive woman.
Thank you for your prayers and kind thoughts they are appreciated.
And glad to hear your new car is coming along well.