Going through the big D and I dont mean Dallas

[Chris Wh1]

Well, the worst thing I could see happening, happened while in Iraq. My wife left me and ran off to New Orleans in my truck. It sucks because I leave here really soon and was hoping to go on vacation and spend some time with the family. Now, its time for revenge. Anyone got any thoughts? The truck is in my name and ONLY my name. I tired to report it stolen because I told her not to take it at all but, the police wont help me at all. Our place is sitting empty and I guess it looks like it got robbed. SHE TOOK MY 52'' TV THAT I HAVENT EVEN GOT TO WATCH YET!!!! The only thing Ive done so far is get a legal bill of sale for the GN in someone elses name so she cant get it. She will never get the truck because it was my dads when he died. It just makes me so mad that this kind of stuff happens and the law will do nothing about it. Gotta love it, on drugs, with some other guy and not taking care of my son, and the law still wont help me out. Sorry for the rant guys, but I just dont know what to do about it. Any ideas would be great.

 

[SlickTR]

Wow,

Man I'm really sorry to hear about your situation brother. I was almost there not to long ago fortunately it worked it's self out and it wasnt nearly as bad as far as the wife doing you dirty. I had a guy in my unit go through something similar and it was a rough time. I know how it feels to be down range and feel helpless. I would suggest going through your chain and seeing what they can do for you as far as legal help. Dont go crazy try to keep your head, it hurts but it passes with time. The only other suggestion I would have is to forget about the cars, TV and other material possesions, you need to focus on your son because it does not sound like he is in a good situation. Hang in there man it will get worse but with time and gods grace things will work out for you.

 

[rmar]

SlickTR , Great advise. Been there.


Chris, I feel for you.
Keep your head and be there for your son. You can always get more stuff.

 

[GNTIM]

Not sure about Ohio laws but in Virginia, if you can prove she cheated, it can be used against her in court. I do agree with the above about focusing on your child.

 

[TexasT]

Not sure about Ohio laws but in Virginia, if you can prove she cheated, it can be used against her in court. I do agree with the above about focusing on your child.

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Document everything and I mean everything. Write it down, date it, keep it accurate. It will go a long way with a good lawyer.

Proving an unfit mother is difficult but not impossible.

Hang in there.

 

[BandAid]

sorry to hear about the situation...I know more than 20 guys and All their wives are the ones that have left,its to easy for a women to spread her legs and say yes,guys have to court a women, blow all kinds of $$$,to get a piece of a$$...if I am wrong,any men want to fess up and tell me they left their wife because the fell out of love,didnt think so,guys leave when the wife cheats...they all get you in the end..I worked with a guy that was nailing a chick ,come to find out the husband was in Afganastan,,wanted to knock him out,,thats low.....your son is the most important thing in your life,concentrate on that... again sorry...

I think listening to Eminem rap music has my brain f'd up:biggrin: :biggrin:

 

[The Darkside]

I'll try to make this short...
Back when I was married to....uuummm, I'll just call her nutcase. Well, After being seperated from Nutcase for a month or so, (she was living in the same town as myself) she came over while I wasn't home & decided to leave me a note letting me know that she had decided that the truck was now hers & took it home. I immediately went to the police station & told them what she's done & that I wanted my truck back. At 1st they said since we weren't divorced that it was still common property & would have to be dicided by a judge...well, I said it's registered in my name only!!! The officer I was talking to went back to talk to the chief about it....Well, The chief had the officer run the vin & saw for himself that it was registered in my name only. He then proceeded to let me ride with a couple of cops over to her place & proceeded to make Nutcase give me my truck back.... She was furious, I was happy & justice was served...
Not sure if this info will help you get your truck back, but I'd sure check into it again.....



The Darkside

 

[GNBRETT]

Cancel the registration but keep the insurance. If the plate gets run (If she is using drugs and hanging out with shaddy people then it is likely she will frequent shaddy places where the police frequent) then possibly get stopped and the car might get towed. DMV will likely ask for the plates back so tell them you took them off the vehicle a month ago when you were going to sell it and can't seem to locate them.

If the registration is cancelled then its cancelled. The police don't always know why DMV cancels a registration nor do they care when they run a plate. Could be failure to pay insurance, a ticket, taxes, etc.

 

[V8Assassin]

Cancel the registration but keep the insurance. If the plate gets run (If she is using drugs and hanging out with shaddy people then it is likely she will frequent shaddy places where the police frequent) then possibly get stopped and the car might get towed. DMV will likely ask for the plates back so tell them you took them off the vehicle a month ago when you were going to sell it and can't seem to locate them.

If the registration is cancelled then its cancelled. The police don't always know why DMV cancels a registration nor do they care when they run a plate. Could be failure to pay insurance, a ticket, taxes, etc.

Man that is terrible, keep your head up and don't give up the fight. I have a close friend who hasn't seen his kids in five months and it is very hard on him. I went through the big D back in 2002 myself, no kids involved but still wasn't much fun.

I think this is good advice. If she is doing what you say then it is very possible that she will have something illegal on her if she gets stopped.
I also think you should pick your battles carefully. Don't get crazy and try to fight over things not worth fighting over.

Unfortunately you will need a GOOD lawyer in this situation. Find someone who comes with a very good rec for handling these type situations. He/she will be able to get things going and the proper documents filed to begin the process.

 

[Chris Wh1]

Thanks alot fellas. It hurts deep but Im sure Ill live. Theres a kicker to the whole thing now, the boy 99% most likley aint mine....and the hits keep comming. Uhhhhhhggggg, its a mess. I just need to get home and sort my stuff out, and if she still wants to screw me over, Im going to New Orleans. If anyone sees a early body Durango, color is called chili pepper red, kinda a dark red, with Ohio plates, let me know what city you seen it, she cant be staying too far away from there

 

[powerwagon05]

ohio is a no fault state they dont care what the reason for divorce,they just call it irreconsilable difference. wont even allow talk of what the other party did to cause the divorce filing.:frown:

 

[chopped39]

Thanks alot fellas. It hurts deep but Im sure Ill live. Theres a kicker to the whole thing now, the boy 99% most likley aint mine....and the hits keep comming. Uhhhhhhggggg, its a mess. I just need to get home and sort my stuff out, and if she still wants to screw me over, Im going to New Orleans. If anyone sees a early body Durango, color is called chili pepper red, kinda a dark red, with Ohio plates, let me know what city you seen it, she cant be staying too far away from there

I hope you did not sign any papers when baby was born.If you did the baby is 100% yours . Thats a mess. One of my buddies friends found out that his six kids were not his and yes i said 6 kids. He fought in court for two years to get his name off the kids .No go the judge said. His kids range from 7 to 18 years old.The poor bastard stayed with her so he would not have to pay child support.The way he found out is his daughter went in for some kind of blood transfusion and his blood did not match.The doctor told him about doing a dna test because she has a rare blood type. that was the first dna test of six that came back negative.I got divorced in 2000 and it was a mess she wanted the buick my tools and the house that she signed off on her homestead rights to. needless to say she got zip. i would take the truck as a loss and move on.It may be sentimental and that sucks but you know that she does not give $hit about the truck for sure if she knows how you feel about it.What a great person she is.You risk your life for her and the whole country and she does that to you.Move on. there is way better women out there that will treat and repect you better than she ever could. Just dont get crazy like I did and go after her or the guy she is with.If you meet him shake his hand and tell him the problem is now his and walk away with smile.Like the old saying says No good deed goes unpunished.And i would say you performed the ultimate good deed fighting for our country and our freedom. Everone on this site and all over the country appreciates what you did. Life is throwing you a curve ball right now so dont swing.You will be fine. time is the fix for this problem. God bless you. We all thank you for our freedom.

 

[Chuck Leeper]

First stop: The base legal officer's place. He can find out exactly what your rights are, and how to go about exercizing them.
Sorry to hear of your problem.

 

[Reggie West]

I agree with Chuck. See what legal affairs can do to help you.

There are laws about her taking things in your name, she will have to return them. Dont know about Texas but Cali has a law that everything gets split 50/50 so you have a lot of options.

As far as your son goes, if she is using drugs the judge will not like that and you may end up with your son on a full time basis.

Bottom line dont give up. Go get some help and you wont feel like you have lost everything you can keep the good things in your life and leave the bad.
Screw the TV let her have the 52 inch, go buy a 60 inch for yourself.

Moral of the story: Get good weapons on your side,form your battle plan and take the bitch out.

 

[V8Assassin]

There is some good advice here. Legal help is my biggest! Speak softly and carry an extremely good lawyer!

These situations can get messy, try not to do anything to make it worse. The first step is to sit down with someone like these guys are talking about, if legal service is offered through the service, and figure out a battle plan.

If you do decide to head down to Nola, you have a place to stay a couple of hours north in MS. Be glad to help out anyway I can. If you go straight down there, be careful! You don't want to end up on the wrong side of the Nola Police, they can be "aggressive". They don't play around down there at all. Make sure you have the title to the durango and proper id before you go try to snag it. These things usually come out looking worse on you in the end.

Get legal help, GOOD legal help before you make any decisions!

 

[fighterjet gn]

get the spare keys and get all the proof the the truck was your fathers and keep it at a relatives house if you get it. get a DNA test for the kid, forget about the TV, the prices are dropping everyday and it will be easy to get another 1. now for some dirty revenge since she is on drugs, get some arm and hammer baking soda, magic shave shaving powder, mix it together and plant it somewhere where her and this guy will think they found some cocaine. sit back and laugh.

 

[Freight Train]

three words of advise from someone who knows...HIRE AN ATTORNEY
divorce sux and it will for a long time but trust me on this..you will thank me later...best $3000 i ever spent........could have painted the TR but i can always do that later...