I just got out of a 5 month relationship with a girl I met on emode.com. I'm a fairly quiet guy and can't really handle the bar thing. Throw some good pics of yourself online, and don't just send out some kind of form email to each girl, they can read that. Individually write to each one and talk about something in their profile. Just remember, when your profile is up, you might get 1-2 girls a week contacting you. They are getting 5 or more guys every day. It's just a numbers game, but make yourself stand out in some way.