1. Don't beat around the bush
"You see, well ... it's just that ... I feel like we're ... you know ... just not doing ... I mean it's like ..." Twenty minutes later: "This is really ... I don't know how to ... I'll always ... um ..." I believe it was the great 20th Century philosopher Jerry Seinfeld who said, "Do it like a Band-Aid — rip it right off!"
2. Don't give us prior warning
Calling us up and saying, We need to talk is the biggest red flag imaginable. It's fair to say that when you tell someone We need to talk, it's generally not to inform them you got tickets to the circus.
3. Don't do it via email
A real letter written on real paper with a real pen is okay — if the note is well-written, that's even classy and respectable. But doing a cyberdump is a cop-out.
4. Don't do it after we've taken you out for an expensive dinner
Need I say more?
5. Don't do it in public
If your soon-to-be-ex is a dramatic kind of dude, keep it in-house, if only to avoid having to pay for some random restaurant's broken plate glass window.
6. Don't be passive/aggressive
It drives us nuts if you stop returning our phone calls, or stand us up, or ignore our instant and/or text messages. That'll create horrible karma, the kind of karma that'll assure the next time you're dumped, you'll get big-time passive/aggressive treatment yourself.
7. Don't tell us how swell we are
Prefacing the break-up with a litany of our alleged good qualities — "You're nice, and cute, and smart, and blah blah blah..." — doesn't make us feel any better. It just makes us think, "If I'm so nice, and cute, and smart, and blah blah blah, why am I being kicked to the curb?" Adding confusion to the dump mix is just ... well, confusing.
The one "do" — Do unto others...
In the end, the most important thing is to be respectful and honest — to treat your now-former-boyfriend the way you'd like to be treated.
On the other hand, if you caught him messing around with your best friend or your sister, feel free to drop him a three-word "Dear John" email after he foots a $200.00 sushi bill.
"You see, well ... it's just that ... I feel like we're ... you know ... just not doing ... I mean it's like ..." Twenty minutes later: "This is really ... I don't know how to ... I'll always ... um ..." I believe it was the great 20th Century philosopher Jerry Seinfeld who said, "Do it like a Band-Aid — rip it right off!"
2. Don't give us prior warning
Calling us up and saying, We need to talk is the biggest red flag imaginable. It's fair to say that when you tell someone We need to talk, it's generally not to inform them you got tickets to the circus.
3. Don't do it via email
A real letter written on real paper with a real pen is okay — if the note is well-written, that's even classy and respectable. But doing a cyberdump is a cop-out.
4. Don't do it after we've taken you out for an expensive dinner
Need I say more?
5. Don't do it in public
If your soon-to-be-ex is a dramatic kind of dude, keep it in-house, if only to avoid having to pay for some random restaurant's broken plate glass window.
6. Don't be passive/aggressive
It drives us nuts if you stop returning our phone calls, or stand us up, or ignore our instant and/or text messages. That'll create horrible karma, the kind of karma that'll assure the next time you're dumped, you'll get big-time passive/aggressive treatment yourself.
7. Don't tell us how swell we are
Prefacing the break-up with a litany of our alleged good qualities — "You're nice, and cute, and smart, and blah blah blah..." — doesn't make us feel any better. It just makes us think, "If I'm so nice, and cute, and smart, and blah blah blah, why am I being kicked to the curb?" Adding confusion to the dump mix is just ... well, confusing.
The one "do" — Do unto others...
In the end, the most important thing is to be respectful and honest — to treat your now-former-boyfriend the way you'd like to be treated.
On the other hand, if you caught him messing around with your best friend or your sister, feel free to drop him a three-word "Dear John" email after he foots a $200.00 sushi bill.
I was on the love boat it sank after Xmass . i know it sounds Pssy but i miss her.
