The signs point to a head gasket or possibly worse?
Not all blown heads gaskets are complete blowouts, most start with a head lifting and "tracks" the gasket. It may be miles later before if lets go or is noticeable?
In my experience your plug gap is way too large especially with an extended plug which is a prime target for a hot spot in the combustion chamber. When a hot spot develops, you immediately cause pre-ignition which is much more damaging than detonation, and it will not show up as a knock reading.
I've been contemplating different plugs; def on the new engine. I'm at the 400-430 rwhp range and thought that was mild enough to stay with the UR5s. I've done HGs before and I'm sure I'll do them again, someday at least if not real soon. Thanks for chiming in. Hopefully I'll get to it in the next couple of weeks. I still think it's spark though. It makes no leaking noises when running and the dead cylinder is just moving air as kidglok mentioned and causing the other 5 to go rich to keep the overall at 14.7 AFR. It sure seems like it anyway. I'll use the water test if I can't get the infrared from my dad.