Two and a half years and now I'm lost

[Demon]

My girlfriend just dumped me after living together for 2 and a half years. Yeah, I know what you're thinking. But everything aside, I do love her 100% and want to somehow get her back. I know this isn't much information, but does anyone have a suggestion?

Thanks all,
Matt

 

[whitehot84]

Once again............

Women are like busses. You get off this one and there'll be another one along in about 15 minutes.
If she has decided to move on you should too. It's mostly a matter of pride with men. You can't stand the thought of her being with someone else. A new interesting meeting with the right person or just someone new will take the edge off but don't jump on the first one that comes along. Mingle. Meet people. Don't set at home and think about what could have been.

Been there and done that.
Good luck.

 

[d0n_3d]

Re: Once again............

Originally posted by whitehot84
Women are like busses. You get off this one and there'll be another one along in about 15 minutes.
If she has decided to move on you should too. It's mostly a matter of pride with men. You can't stand the thought of her being with someone else. A new interesting meeting with the right person or just someone new will take the edge off but don't jump on the first one that comes along. Mingle. Meet people. Don't set at home and think about what could have been.

Been there and done that.
Good luck.

same here...listen to what he said...it's very very true...

 

[TylerDurden]

listen to these guys....be a MAN and sack up and move on....3 times i was a **SSY about it and tried stupid stuff to get them back....it was a waste of time, energy, money and self respect....the only real chance of getting anyone back is by ignoring them at some point where by some chance they get jealous of you...maybe....but then what, you still get back a girl who broke your heart, maybe cheated on you, maybe fooled around while you were apart....all bad deals on your part unless you do the same....

trust me i am sorry for what yer going thru, ive been there, but i NEVER listened to my real FRIENDS advise, i assume by posting here you are willing to listen (I HOPE) to buick friends....if not us, what do your local friends say, i bet its the same thing and THEY are right! what does your family think.....cause they are right too
they always are....

HTH man....

"get busy livin, or get busy dying"-shawshank

"i am jack's smirking revenge"-Fight Club

ps, that last quote reminds me of the fact that in all three cases of my broken heart (cheating) eventually all three tried to come back into my life, two to the point of wanting to get back together....revenge is sweet....just be patient

 

[bishir]

Step #1: Go to store and buy recent Maxim with Anna Kornikova on cover...

Step #2: Look at all the hot babes, especially the 100 hometown hotties...

Step#3: Realize what you're missing...

Step#4: PARTY!



There that is Bishir's 4 step plan... follow it or suffer miserably..

James

 

[Zero Tolerance]

Move on. Even if she comes back, you know her walkin' away is just around the corner. Relationships are two way streets, if she doesn't want in, you can't try to negotiate a settlement, or beg her to come back. I know it's hard and hurts, but suck it up and move on.

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

my girl of 2 and 1/2 years broke up with me two weeks ago, i love her and i want to someday marry her. Don't listen to these bitter old men. Stick it out, she will be back. I'm in the same boat as you. I know she will be back, its just that my girl is young, she needs time. I know every feeling you are feeling right now, its sucks but the possiblity of gettin back with her seems like the greatest thing ever. So bro, my suggestion is not to call, email, see her for as long as you can take it. Right now i'm at 5 days without contact but i know the longer i hold out the better its gonna turn out. TIME!!! thats the key. I know it probably makes you sick to think she might date another guy or bang another guy but if you lover her 100% you'll get over it. I was my girl's first so i can see how she wants to be single for a while but i can't understand why she thinks things are so bad right now? Girls get goofy. If you were really good to her she'll come around. The main thing thou is if you wait be prepared for the not so good outcome. I'm willing to sacrifice a lot to have a second chance, you have to be the same way. If it doesn't work out then move on. Just don;t give up now and jump on the first "Bus" that comes along.

 

[420]

Originally posted by Demon
My girlfriend just dumped me after living together for 2 and a half years. Yeah, I know what you're thinking. But everything aside, I do love her 100% and want to somehow get her back. I know this isn't much information, but does anyone have a suggestion?

Thanks all,
Matt

I can tell you how to get her back. But be warned, it involves a bag of candy, duct tape, some roofies, and some fake mexican passports. Oh, and if the cops ask, I had nothing to do with it this time.... PM me if you'd like to know more.

 

[bishir]

Don't listen to these bitter old men. Stick it out

LOL, glad to see I'm already a bitter old man at 24.
My feelings are that if you're not sure after 2.5 years then you're not going to stay together. If you do then you're making an even bigger mistake. The only way I'd tell someone to try to work it out is #1 They are Married and no cheating is involved, or #2 She's really rich!


James

 

[jy211]

only time will heal the pain.......

 

[blackshoebox]

Originally posted by Demon
My girlfriend just dumped me after living together for 2 and a half years. Yeah, I know what you're thinking. But everything aside, I do love her 100% and want to somehow get her back. I know this isn't much information, but does anyone have a suggestion?

Not to sound nosey, but there has to be a little more to this story? What were her reason's for leaving? To give an honest opinion on what you can do, we need a little more info.

-Alex

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

Originally posted by bishir
LOL, glad to see I'm already a bitter old man at 24.
My feelings are that if you're not sure after 2.5 years then you're not going to stay together. If you do then you're making an even bigger mistake. The only way I'd tell someone to try to work it out is #1 They are Married and no cheating is involved, or #2 She's really rich!


James

OH NO i'll be a bitter old man then in two months!!! I think a lot of relationships get to this point, it can go either way. It seems that if they go this long its always the girl that has issues not the men. Once girls get into college they turn into stupid b----es, because every other snake guy is trying to take your girl. The smooth talkers will prey on them and talk your girl right out of love with you. Give it time, she'll see other guys are tryin to bang her and she will realize what was really important. Note to guys: if you know some girl gotta man, don't be a d1ck and get your own.

 

[2quiktocare]

Undeniable true

There is an undeniable truth in life, "a man marries a woman expecting her to never change, she always does. A woman marries a man thinking she can make him what she wants and he never changes". Just admit it was not a good match, it ran it's course and when she found out you are who you are, she moved on to someone that she now thinks she can make her "dream guy". It does suck, but unfortunately, it's part of life. Only things in this world that never changes other than a man is taxes and death. Just stay who you are (unless you are like a wicked person) and get thru this and move on. Doesn't meant it won't suck for awhile, but you will meet another nice lady that thinks she can change you, and you will be there again. My own view also is never hook up wiht a good looking woman because of her looks, fall in love with her mind first.,,,,,,,,,,,,,Mark

 

[d0n_3d]

Originally posted by 88 CuttyClassic
OH NO i'll be a bitter old man then in two months!!! I think a lot of relationships get to this point, it can go either way. It seems that if they go this long its always the girl that has issues not the men. Once girls get into college they turn into stupid b----es, because every other snake guy is trying to take your girl. The smooth talkers will prey on them and talk your girl right out of love with you. Give it time, she'll see other guys are tryin to bang her and she will realize what was really important. Note to guys: if you know some girl gotta man, don't be a d1ck and get your own.

tru dat...this guy knows what he is talking about

 

[hanly2]

I got a idea if you ask my wife she'll probably say send your girl my way cause I'll make her so unhappy she'll come crawling back to you.

But on another note, there was a lot of good advice up there. One thing I always heard as a kid and I'll add it now.

"If you wan't to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife, take it from my personal point of view get an ugly girl to marry you." (from some song)

 

[1of1035]

Check your pm's. I've been going threw the same thing for about 3 weeks now and I KNOW exactly how you probably feel too. It sucks and its a s***ty feeling being lost like this.

 

[bishir]

If you wan't to be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife, take it from my personal point of view get an ugly girl to marry you." (from some song)

Truer words were never spoken

 

[Gary Wells]

FWIW & IMHO:
Basically:
If you love someone and set that person free and they come back, they are yours. If they don't come back, they never were
(yours).
There is some very sound advice on the previous responses.
Oh, yeah, too:
D: Hookers

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

Originally posted by Wells
FWIW & IMHO:
Basically:
If you love someone and set that person free and they come back, they are yours. If they don't come back, they never were
(yours).

WOW that is the best thing i've heard so far, that makes is crystal clear for me.

 

[salvageV6]

Ummm, what do you do in the case where she comes back to you in 3 months after being the college football teams new mascot, well make that old worn out well used mascot?