Two and a half years and now I'm lost
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TylerDurden
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Demon, and 1of1035 (mike right?)
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join us on #buickgn on the IRC
if you dont have IRC you can easily download it from www.mirc.com
once installed connect to buick.fiendish.net (port) 6667
/join #buickgn
hope to see you guys, always someone on, usually...lotsa good info for this topic.....floatin around on there if needed....
any ?? on joining the channel email me at evilgn@hotmail.com
or get with me on AOLIM gnpilot1
lata
CAN ANYBODY SMELL THE COFFEE?
Sadly, most people reacting like the world has ended when they get dumped (while the other person is getting on with their life) are also temporarily like BROKEN RECORDS with their wishful fantasies of reconciliation (usually unhealthily wasteful false hopes) AND are also usually DEAF to any suggestions that would require them to leave their self-inflicted torture chamber.
A factoid to consider: However much you feel the "X" hurt you, realize Y-O-U ARE HURTING YOU 1000 times as much!!!! You are responsible for 99.999% of the current agony because you have chosen it, and continue to choose it each & every morning, by rejecting the bright, beautiful world with endless opportunities just outside your misery bubble.
Usually about a year later, they begin to pull out of this self-destructive degrading "funk", inching out of that misery episode, and since they've learned/changed/grown so very little, are usually doomed to repeat a similar scenario.
Better to get a grip NOW, don't you think?
Do these 2 simple things:
1.) Do some good research & reading on CO-DEPENDENCY, and CO-DEPENDENT PERSONALITY, and CO-DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS.
2.) Try to stay around people who truly care & respect you. Then, try truly caring for yourself, and having/showing self-respect.
Look yourself in the mirror, & ask yourself: "Do I deserve to be treated like this---abandoned, ignored, dumped---and is my pain serving any good purpose?"
(If your answer is "YES", then no amount of wise or well-intended help will do any good. If your answer is "NO", better get busy.)
HTH------------------------------------------------------------
Sadly, most people reacting like the world has ended when they get dumped (while the other person is getting on with their life) are also temporarily like BROKEN RECORDS with their wishful fantasies of reconciliation (usually unhealthily wasteful false hopes) AND are also usually DEAF to any suggestions that would require them to leave their self-inflicted torture chamber.
A factoid to consider: However much you feel the "X" hurt you, realize Y-O-U ARE HURTING YOU 1000 times as much!!!! You are responsible for 99.999% of the current agony because you have chosen it, and continue to choose it each & every morning, by rejecting the bright, beautiful world with endless opportunities just outside your misery bubble.
Usually about a year later, they begin to pull out of this self-destructive degrading "funk", inching out of that misery episode, and since they've learned/changed/grown so very little, are usually doomed to repeat a similar scenario.
Better to get a grip NOW, don't you think?
Do these 2 simple things:
1.) Do some good research & reading on CO-DEPENDENCY, and CO-DEPENDENT PERSONALITY, and CO-DEPENDENT RELATIONSHIPS.
2.) Try to stay around people who truly care & respect you. Then, try truly caring for yourself, and having/showing self-respect.
Look yourself in the mirror, & ask yourself: "Do I deserve to be treated like this---abandoned, ignored, dumped---and is my pain serving any good purpose?"
(If your answer is "YES", then no amount of wise or well-intended help will do any good. If your answer is "NO", better get busy.)
HTH------------------------------------------------------------
whitehot84
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Not.........
I really would rather think of it as the voice of EXPERIENCE. I'm not bitter at all because every time it turned into something much better. Usually if you step out and look at the entire picture you see things you didn't know were there. People just naturally grow. Either apart or together. Young people usually grow apart. It takes a lot of hard work to stay together for a long period of time and both people have to want to try.
Having traveled across the big water, she has seen things that were not in her life with you. She now sees a whole new world out there. Before you were her world. Now you are just a small part of it. She has a whole new perspective. You must do the same. Look past this one relationship and see what the rest of the world has to offer.
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While you are trying to decide what to do I got one piece of advice. Go take your Buick for a ride (being a member of the board I am assuming you have one) and do your thinking in the car. My troubles seem much less severe when I hear the boost in the background.
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I don;t got a TR (yet) but my 455 buick does just the trick. Even a ride in my SS or Hurst with the tops off at night and some music helps. I've already turned this into somethig positive. One of the reason i got from her is that i don't know what i'm doing with my life. Well I'm very close on decideing to go to WYOTECH here in PA, its like 45 mins from my house. I'm not doing it to show her, but it did kick me in the ass and make me realize i have to better myself.
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hey thats my moto too.
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Originally posted by d0n_3d
yeah i guess that is quite true...hey they all feel the same don't they? just close your eyes! LOL!!!
Hey, if you just dream she can be anyone you want her to be.
There has been some good advice given on this topic... But , I have been getting emails from fellow male & female members that feel some of the "words" & "one liners" are offensive to them , so some of you may notice that I have edited your post. Please remember that we do have women members here.
Thank you for your understanding.
Jesse
Thank you for your understanding.
Jesse
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Originally posted by Jesse
There has been some good advice given on this topic... But , I have been getting emails from fellow male & female members that feel some of the "words" & "one liners" are offensive to them , so some of you may notice that I have edited your post. Please remember that we do have women members here.
Thank you for your understanding.
Jesse
I don't understand.
guess what guys! i just got dumped last night too! for NO REASON...after 1 1/2 years...here's my story...
right after the metallica concert on sunday she says we shouldn't see each other until thursday when we are both off from work (this is because since we are both going to college only 45 minutes apart, that we should learn to live without each other for weeks at a time now to get used to it)...i agreed and didn't think nothing of it...all of a sudden i am finding myself not hearing any phone calls from her in 3 days...i tried calling yesterday and her cell phone rang and then she picked up and hung it up real fast...i tried back again and it was turned off!
finally i leave some nasty messages on her answering machine...she finally calls me back at around 10 pm and says i got something to tell you...i don't want to be in this relationship anymore...i go WHAT??? i asked why and she wouldn't give me reasons...she just said she was tired of the relationship...i asked if there was another guy involved and she said no repeatedly...
so i went to her house and boxed up all her stuff...when i got there she was waiting for me...i said you wanna break up? she said yeah...i said you want your stuff back? she said yeah but don't throw it at me...i proceeded to the front yard and dropped the box of stuff and just LAUNCHED it with my right foot and scattered EVERYTHING all over the yard...i said "GO F!CKING FETCH IT!" oh it was the sweetest thing i have ever done...it was just like a movie scene...she had a straight face the whole time and didn't break down and cry at any point...i guess she had this whole thing planned...she used me for both concerts! AHHHH!
out of the clear blue and i didn't even do anything wrong to her at all...WOMEN SUCK
right after the metallica concert on sunday she says we shouldn't see each other until thursday when we are both off from work (this is because since we are both going to college only 45 minutes apart, that we should learn to live without each other for weeks at a time now to get used to it)...i agreed and didn't think nothing of it...all of a sudden i am finding myself not hearing any phone calls from her in 3 days...i tried calling yesterday and her cell phone rang and then she picked up and hung it up real fast...i tried back again and it was turned off!
finally i leave some nasty messages on her answering machine...she finally calls me back at around 10 pm and says i got something to tell you...i don't want to be in this relationship anymore...i go WHAT??? i asked why and she wouldn't give me reasons...she just said she was tired of the relationship...i asked if there was another guy involved and she said no repeatedly...
so i went to her house and boxed up all her stuff...when i got there she was waiting for me...i said you wanna break up? she said yeah...i said you want your stuff back? she said yeah but don't throw it at me...i proceeded to the front yard and dropped the box of stuff and just LAUNCHED it with my right foot and scattered EVERYTHING all over the yard...i said "GO F!CKING FETCH IT!" oh it was the sweetest thing i have ever done...it was just like a movie scene...she had a straight face the whole time and didn't break down and cry at any point...i guess she had this whole thing planned...she used me for both concerts! AHHHH!
out of the clear blue and i didn't even do anything wrong to her at all...WOMEN SUCK
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welcome to a club that it sucks to be a member of. sorry bro.
Sounds like time to start investing in some time with your old trusty black babe! God know I have over the past 6 months. Just keep your chin up and try to get out as much as possible. I can't agree more with the thought that if you let her go and she comes back she's the one. That didn't work in my case cause not only did she screw it up to the point I'd never take her back, but she lost intrest in me long before that! Do some hanging out with your friends and try new things. I lived a pretty sheltered life when I was with my ex, but now I'm living it up! No, I'm not currently with anyone, but I know that will come with time. Don't go looking too hard either to find a replacement! Those never work and both end up hurt.
Like I said, spend some time on the car! You think my new wheels and drivetrain upgrade are just a timely thing? Heck no! You'd be suprized what some saving up and a engagement ring with turn into when you've got a TR catalog infront of ya!
Need any more addvice PM me. I've come a long way since Christmas and the road wasn't easy, but things do get better with time!
Ryan
Like I said, spend some time on the car! You think my new wheels and drivetrain upgrade are just a timely thing? Heck no! You'd be suprized what some saving up and a engagement ring with turn into when you've got a TR catalog infront of ya!
Need any more addvice PM me. I've come a long way since Christmas and the road wasn't easy, but things do get better with time!
Ryan
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