So, I put up a yahoo personals ad up just seeing what would happen. I decided not to bother sending anyone any messages because I have the experience that that sort of thing is a waste of time.
So I just waited around seeing if I would get any bites.
I get a message from a chick that is pretty cute, and that happens to be into cycling too. I do alot of bike riding and I thought this was a pretty cool and unlikely circumstance.
My first inkling that something foul was afoot was her very terse message to me, and then our subsequent communication via Yahoo messenger consisted of me saying things, and then waiting for like 10 minutes, having her give a 2 word reply and then repeating the process. You know, I figure if you are going to contact someone you might as well want to get to know them.
Anyway, she apparently is not much for conversation so she just invited me to a group ride that was happening the next morning. I go out of my way to show up despite her not giving me contact information... which, I should have known better than to do. But anyways...
She was not there when i got there... Allright, no big deal. She shows up a little while into the ride meeting up with the group along the way. She sees me and does not make any sort of facial acknowledgement (shes seen my pics) and just continues to the back of the pack. I roll back there and say hello, and thus began the most tedius 3 hours of my life trying to start some type of conversation. She didnt seem interested in small talk, intellectual talk, humor, sarcasm, you name it. I may hve not been on my game but by God atleast respond to me instead of just looking at me like I am an idiot.
Anyway, I was glad it was over.
I got to thinking about this and why this all failed miserably when Ive never had this happen to me before. I have a pretty good track record actually.
I remembered something she said early on
"Ive been single for a year"
"but Ive dated alot"
which sent up red flags, and is indicative of a phenomenon I have observed in other situations that I couldn't quite put into words.
So I came up with an analogy
It basically goes like this:
We'll say that men eat apples, but in order for us to eat these apples we must hunt for them in the woods and hope to stumble upon a tree with a good apple every now and then. We run across alot of impostors along the way that we climbed cliffs for, but when we manage to find an apple, we cherish its delicious goodness while we are eating it. We also remember that tasty apple afterwards and relive its delicious flavor later on. We do this because apples are kind of rare. Every now and then we get lucky and run into an apple orchard and get tired of apples for a little bit, but its not long before we are in the woods without an apple in sight thinking abou all-o-dem apples we had
Women on the other hand eat grapes, and instead of having to go somewhere to get these grapes, they have a grape delivery man. They get em by the pound, if they are hungry for a grape they might eat a few... but in reality, grapes are just a fact of life, like air, so its no big deal. Grape number 7 might as well be grape number 38, or grape number 221. So at no point is she ever famished for grapes thus takes them for granted.
So when a female tells me something like
"Ive dated alot"
I remember that I am just a grape.
anyway thats my theory
Dont take it for emo, it was just my polite way of putting a social theory I have
So I just waited around seeing if I would get any bites.
I get a message from a chick that is pretty cute, and that happens to be into cycling too. I do alot of bike riding and I thought this was a pretty cool and unlikely circumstance.
My first inkling that something foul was afoot was her very terse message to me, and then our subsequent communication via Yahoo messenger consisted of me saying things, and then waiting for like 10 minutes, having her give a 2 word reply and then repeating the process. You know, I figure if you are going to contact someone you might as well want to get to know them.
Anyway, she apparently is not much for conversation so she just invited me to a group ride that was happening the next morning. I go out of my way to show up despite her not giving me contact information... which, I should have known better than to do. But anyways...
She was not there when i got there... Allright, no big deal. She shows up a little while into the ride meeting up with the group along the way. She sees me and does not make any sort of facial acknowledgement (shes seen my pics) and just continues to the back of the pack. I roll back there and say hello, and thus began the most tedius 3 hours of my life trying to start some type of conversation. She didnt seem interested in small talk, intellectual talk, humor, sarcasm, you name it. I may hve not been on my game but by God atleast respond to me instead of just looking at me like I am an idiot.
Anyway, I was glad it was over.
I got to thinking about this and why this all failed miserably when Ive never had this happen to me before. I have a pretty good track record actually.
I remembered something she said early on
"Ive been single for a year"
"but Ive dated alot"
which sent up red flags, and is indicative of a phenomenon I have observed in other situations that I couldn't quite put into words.
So I came up with an analogy
It basically goes like this:
We'll say that men eat apples, but in order for us to eat these apples we must hunt for them in the woods and hope to stumble upon a tree with a good apple every now and then. We run across alot of impostors along the way that we climbed cliffs for, but when we manage to find an apple, we cherish its delicious goodness while we are eating it. We also remember that tasty apple afterwards and relive its delicious flavor later on. We do this because apples are kind of rare. Every now and then we get lucky and run into an apple orchard and get tired of apples for a little bit, but its not long before we are in the woods without an apple in sight thinking abou all-o-dem apples we had
Women on the other hand eat grapes, and instead of having to go somewhere to get these grapes, they have a grape delivery man. They get em by the pound, if they are hungry for a grape they might eat a few... but in reality, grapes are just a fact of life, like air, so its no big deal. Grape number 7 might as well be grape number 38, or grape number 221. So at no point is she ever famished for grapes thus takes them for granted.
So when a female tells me something like
"Ive dated alot"
I remember that I am just a grape.
anyway thats my theory
Dont take it for emo, it was just my polite way of putting a social theory I have
Got my shades on. Go ahead...
