Am I getting Screwed here?

[my1stgn]

Now this is waaayyyyyy of the subject of regular Turbo Buick stuff but since most here know the "parties" involved Id figure Id ask if Im getting screwed.

Awhile ago I had a "friend" (who most of us know here) fall into some "economic hardship". He, we shall call him "Tim" to make the story easier to follow, was switch jobs to make more "money" and needed to come up on some "money" to hold him over till he got his new "business" set up. So he asked a few "friends" to help him out. He also sold his Grey T-Type he just had pained and fixed and a few other stuff to try to make ends meet. Well anyways I ended up lending him some money to help him get by.

Well since that (Sept '06) his phone isnt working and he hasnt made any type of effort to pay me back. I saw him once on his new job but he "didnt have the money yet" (even though this was in Dec and he was supposed to pay me back in Nov)

Now my question is Am I screwed out of a couple of hundred bucks for trying to help out a "fellow buick member"? I mean really, is it worth it to ruin your name for a few hundred dollars? Seems to me thats kinda messed up. What do you guys think?

 

[turbolou]

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Now this is waaayyyyyy of the subject of regular Turbo Buick stuff but since most here know the "parties" involved Id figure Id ask if Im getting screwed.

Awhile ago I had a "friend" (who most of us know here) fall into some "economic hardship". He, we shall call him "Tim" to make the story easier to follow, was switch jobs to make more "money" and needed to come up on some "money" to hold him over till he got his new "business" set up. So he asked a few "friends" to help him out. He also sold his Grey T-Type he just had pained and fixed and a few other stuff to try to make ends meet. Well anyways I ended up lending him some money to help him get by.

Well since that (Sept '06) his phone isnt working and he hasnt made any type of effort to pay me back. I saw him once on his new job but he "didnt have the money yet" (even though this was in Dec and he was supposed to pay me back in Nov)

Now my question is Am I screwed out of a couple of hundred bucks for trying to help out a "fellow buick member"? I mean really, is it worth it to ruin your name for a few hundred dollars? Seems to me thats kinda messed up. What do you guys think?

A few hundred bucks is a cheap lesson on borrowing money to friends or relatives, If I do that I Just consider it a gift & move on. Right now there are plenty of people & probably that person also who would love to have your worst day. be thankful that your not in that situation, In the long run your generosity will be paid back in other ways. Take care Lou

 

[Gary Wells]

A few hundred bucks is a cheap lesson on borrowing money to friends or relatives, If I do that I Just consider it a gift & move on. Right now there are plenty of people & probably that person also who would love to have your worst day. be thankful that your not in that situation, In the long run your generosity will be paid back in other ways. Take care Lou

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Lou, got a couple hundred I can borrow? (J/K).
I have to agree with Lou here, cheap lesson, just be thankful it was only a couple hundred and not a couple thousand, a friend that doesn't pay you back is/was a rainy day friend at best, or not a friend at all.
I don't know if this follows suit at all, but I have had a couple of friends that seemed to be great friends when they were into turbo Buicks, but the minute that their Buick went away for whatever reason, so did their friendship. Maybe it is just the nature of the beast. Hope all's well otherwise, Vic.

 

[Underboost]

Now this is waaayyyyyy of the subject of regular Turbo Buick stuff but since most here know the "parties" involved Id figure Id ask if Im getting screwed.

Awhile ago I had a "friend" (who most of us know here) fall into some "economic hardship". He, we shall call him "Tim" to make the story easier to follow, was switch jobs to make more "money" and needed to come up on some "money" to hold him over till he got his new "business" set up. So he asked a few "friends" to help him out. He also sold his Grey T-Type he just had pained and fixed and a few other stuff to try to make ends meet. Well anyways I ended up lending him some money to help him get by.

Well since that (Sept '06) his phone isnt working and he hasnt made any type of effort to pay me back. I saw him once on his new job but he "didnt have the money yet" (even though this was in Dec and he was supposed to pay me back in Nov)

Now my question is Am I screwed out of a couple of hundred bucks for trying to help out a "fellow buick member"? I mean really, is it worth it to ruin your name for a few hundred dollars? Seems to me thats kinda messed up. What do you guys think?

It sounds like your a very thoughtfull person, and you love to help others. It's really too bad that "Tim" isn't making one bit of effort to make things right. Cut your loses and move on! This country is falling apart. Starting with BANK OF AMERICA!!!

 

[cruzn57]

sorry to hear that........

we all have hard times, but to impose on a friend........
talk to him, their may be other problems,
hope it'll be resolved, for the good!

Brent, whats the status??? need any help? ( not related to above problem)

 

[SGRIM]

A few hundred bucks is a cheap lesson on borrowing money to friends or relatives, If I do that I Just consider it a gift & move on. Right now there are plenty of people & probably that person also who would love to have your worst day. be thankful that your not in that situation, In the long run your generosity will be paid back in other ways. Take care Lou

So true.......

 

[my1stgn]

A few hundred bucks is a cheap lesson on borrowing money to friends or relatives, If I do that I Just consider it a gift & move on. Right now there are plenty of people & probably that person also who would love to have your worst day. be thankful that your not in that situation, In the long run your generosity will be paid back in other ways. Take care Lou

You may be right about it just being a "few" hundred bucks but when your wife is 7 months pregnant and about to take time off of work to take care of the baby after its born, trust me you need all the money you could get since the mortgage isnt going to go down just because she stopped working. And Im using the term "friend" losely since I dont know what else to call him. Unlike others I dont have "extra" money to be throwing around just because other people fall into "economic hardships"..... on the other hand family is totaly different and I wouldnt lend family money, I would just give it since I know they would be around for a longer time than so called "friends".... I just hate dealing with "shadey" people

 

[Gary Wells]

You may be right about it just being a "few" hundred bucks but when your wife is 7 months pregnant and about to take time off of work to take care of the baby after its born, trust me you need all the money you could get since the mortgage isnt going to go down just because she stopped working. And Im using the term "friend" losely since I dont know what else to call him. Unlike others I dont have "extra" money to be throwing around just because other people fall into "economic hardships"..... on the other hand family is totaly different and I wouldnt lend family money, I would just give it since I know they would be around for a longer time than so called "friends".... I just hate dealing with "shadey" people

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Vic;
If that's the case, Vic, at least give him the benefit of the doubt so that if you have to move on without your money, you can do it with a totally clear conscience. Call him, run into him, go see him, explain the situation that you could use it, and ask what you can do to help, like in setting up payments, getting at least a partial of your money in return is better than none, and a clear conscience is worth it's weight in gold generally. It's worth the hassle to go out of your way to be able to at least say that you did everything possible to ease the situation. And then if it doesn't work, it's on him and him alone. Congratulations on the wife expecting.

 

[nordy racer]

time to get on Judge Judy

Sorry to hear about that man..

 

[graza002]

A few hundred bucks is a cheap lesson on borrowing money to friends or relatives, If I do that I Just consider it a gift & move on. Right now there are plenty of people & probably that person also who would love to have your worst day. be thankful that your not in that situation, In the long run your generosity will be paid back in other ways. Take care Lou

Hey, Sorry to hear about your loss. Lou is right, and actually Lou used the same quote when my motor went south. I know what its like to be behind the eight ball and loan away your shirt to a "friend" and not get your money back. Its hard and it really pisses you off . But good things happen to people who are good hearted.

Like Gary said, Try to get in contact with him, and if all else fails...go with Mikes advise and go to Judge Judy .

I hope everything clears up and you get your money back. With that baby on the way I bet you could use it. Just be ready to not get anything back. In the long run you have the gain.....Healthy family and great true friends that will help you out when you need it.

Take care.

 

[Underboost]

time to get on Judge Judy

Sorry to hear about that man..

Did you know that Judge Judy was born at night but not last night.

 

[my1stgn]

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Vic;
If that's the case, Vic, at least give him the benefit of the doubt so that if you have to move on without your money, you can do it with a totally clear conscience. Call him, run into him, go see him, explain the situation that you could use it, and ask what you can do to help, like in setting up payments, getting at least a partial of your money in return is better than none, and a clear conscience is worth it's weight in gold generally. It's worth the hassle to go out of your way to be able to at least say that you did everything possible to ease the situation. And then if it doesn't work, it's on him and him alone. Congratulations on the wife expecting.

I understand what your saying but really. Lets say I go out my way to try to get my money back or atleast some of it right. In the long run I feel like Ill spend more money and time trying to get something back than to just cut my loses. But regaurdless this is messed up. If you loan someone money you shouldnt have to go out of your way to try to collect. They should be man enough to call you up and say "Hey man, I know I owe you some cash but times are still hard. Could I pay you back in a few more months? Or could I just give you $5 now and pay you some more later?" I mean atleast something! But either way this person might be the type to say give you a few bucks to start up some type of payment option and then weeks later you have to track him down again and again....... I just wanted to let other people out there that have met this guy named "Tim" to watch out as far as lending him money or anything like that. This guys too shadey

Thanks for your guys support...

 

[Gary Wells]

I understand what your saying but really. Lets say I go out my way to try to get my money back or atleast some of it right. In the long run I feel like Ill spend more money and time trying to get something back than to just cut my loses. But regaurdless this is messed up. If you loan someone money you shouldnt have to go out of your way to try to collect. They should be man enough to call you up and say "Hey man, I know I owe you some cash but times are still hard. Could I pay you back in a few more months? Or could I just give you $5 now and pay you some more later?" I mean atleast something! But either way this person might be the type to say give you a few bucks to start up some type of payment option and then weeks later you have to track him down again and again....... I just wanted to let other people out there that have met this guy named "Tim" to watch out as far as lending him money or anything like that. This guys too shadey Thanks for your guys support...

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Victor:
Sorry, I see your point. It's really none of my business, and I do appreciate the "heads up", and you're right, it really is messed up. If I was fortunate enough to have a wife, and she was expecting, I would like to believe that the money would come before my pride in having to collect something that I should not have to chase down, and the other persons embarassment of not having paid it back without issues. Hope that all works out for you.

 

[my1stgn]

So has anyone heard from this person? Im still trying to track him down and get my money!!!

 

[750H.P.V6]

Tim approached me about borrowing some money at the same time you're talking about. I like the guy and I knew his situation but I didn't know him well enough to feel comfortable lending him some $$ so I didn't.

Originally he wanted to sell me his car which was of interest to me but it was a goofy deal whereby Louis had already lent him money and was holding the title. To me Tim didn't even own it at that point so he had nothing to sell.

I hope Tim is doing OK, since I haven't heard from him in a while now I don't know. I also hope he pays you back the money he borrowed. If it makes you feel any better I have a guy that owes me $3k for an engine he never sent me. That deal has been dragging on for better than 2 years.

Neal

 

[my1stgn]

Tim approached me about borrowing some money at the same time you're talking about. I like the guy and I knew his situation but I didn't know him well enough to feel comfortable lending him some $$ so I didn't.

Originally he wanted to sell me his car which was of interest to me but it was a goofy deal whereby Louis had already lent him money and was holding the title. To me Tim didn't even own it at that point so he had nothing to sell.

I hope Tim is doing OK, since I haven't heard from him in a while now I don't know. I also hope he pays you back the money he borrowed. If it makes you feel any better I have a guy that owes me $3k for an engine he never sent me. That deal has been dragging on for better than 2 years.

Neal

Damb I figure you knew him better than that! Everytime I spoke with him about Buick stuff he would bring your name up. "Yeah my buddy Neal has blah-blah-blah on his car. He goes by the screen name 750HP . He used to burn his own chips and was the first guy to blah-blah-blah" I figure you guys where boys. But I guess its my fault since I hardly knew the guy and just tried to help him out. But after awhile you think about it and you just get pissed. Not cause the money thing but because someone made you look dumb you know?

 

[supercoupe5]

$200.00 is an easy lesson. my father-in-law loaned a friend of his some money in the past and he paid him back. then he got into some trouble with his buisness and needed some money. he called my father-in-law up and he said he would help, went to the bank and took the CASH out of his acount (did not get a loan) and drove 250 miles one way to give it to this guy. well that was 5-7 years ago and no sign of and not $1.00 paid back of $20,000.00. dave

 

[750H.P.V6]

I know what you mean. It's not just the $$ it's the fact that you were taken advantage of. I got shafted by a guy on Ebay (imagine that) for about $300 once and I had a hard time getting over it. You like to think everyone is honest but unfortunately the world doesn't work like that.

Neal

 

[my1stgn]

$200.00 is an easy lesson. my father-in-law loaned a friend of his some money in the past and he paid him back. then he got into some trouble with his buisness and needed some money. he called my father-in-law up and he said he would help, went to the bank and took the CASH out of his acount (did not get a loan) and drove 250 miles one way to give it to this guy. well that was 5-7 years ago and no sign of and not $1.00 paid back of $20,000.00. dave

Well like I said it aint the money, its the principal. But you'd figure if someone was loaning someone else $20K, youd think he would have gotten some sort of loan paperwork going (ie have the guy sign something that would hold up in court) But sometimes common sense isnt so common.

 

[Gary Wells]

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