My uncle has colon cancer

[Just a Six??]

My mom was diagnosed about 4 years ago, went through chemo and was cleared. about 2 months ago they did a biopsy and it's back and it's spread.

She says she's not taking chemo again so we're enjoying what time we have.

My Dad went thru prostate cancer operation (which I ASSume are sort of similar)
He said he would Never do it again! Rather lose 10 years off his life.
Your uncle sounds more serious than that. I do know it will be a hard recovery for a long time! Talk to him now & say anything you feel so (just in case) you have no regrets.
Cancer is killing so many people & it's just sickening they cant stop it!
Good Luck to him!!

 

[davidf]

Last month I went in for a 1 day procedure {outpatient} which turned out to be bladder cancer. They got it all since it was early and I'm currently going through BCG treatments for the next 12 months. Nonetheless it was the most horrific feeling when I was told. I turned 52 this june, I've spent most of my life in the gym, I dont drink/smoke, I can't remember the last time I even had a cold. I've always considered myself very lucky and suddenly, I have cancer. Though I'm considered "cancer free" I went through a 2 week depression at home. You ask yourself 1000 times, why me! I finally got over my slump and realized your attitude and mind have alot to do with the healing process. I feel good now, and while the treatments suck, it's so much better than the alternative. My outlook on life is completely different now. We take so much for grant it until we cross that fork in the road. I wish your uncle the very very best.

 

[Bruce Urie]

Hey, buddy...hang in there. Just talk to Nelson about anything going on in the world....or go back to funny things that happened while growing up. The world is full of interesting things to discuss with him if you do it in a friendly, kind way. But just talk, if he wants to. Tell him about the Turbo Ts, Grand Nationals, all the things that drive you mad when you work on them, lost tools, busted knuckles, hot rods, The Beach Boys, The Ventures, The Beatles, George Harrison's $1,000,000 McClaren M1, anything.

Here's something to tell your good buddy....I, yes, me, had to go to the doctor's this morning for my appointment.

When I got into the room, he said it was time for the ol' finger in the butt exam...!!!!!!! I thought it was the usual, prescriptions, what's going on, etc. Nope, a RECTAL BABY!!! Yeeehaaaa!!!!

I told him this reminds me of the film "Deliverance" where it was said, "You just drop them there pants, boy!" Oh, sure, funny to the doctor...me, I hate anyone poking around there. Jeez.

But he said it was checking for cancer, hemoroids, hamburgers, and the prostate gland, etc. He was right.

Man, when he walked in with those greased up rubber gloves......My God!! I said "Can't you just use those tubes that expensive cigars come it instead of your finger?" So, I had to listen to him laugh and snicker through the whole exam. But it was for a good cause. I told him he should be grateful I didn't have tacos for dinner last night, extra cheeze please.

Come to think of it, it's time for me to go have another "Buttatometry" (or colonscopy, for you young squirts) again. Guess who gave it to me the last time??? You guessed it....my doctor's wife!!!! She's a top notch Doctor also!!!

After she gave me my Buttatometry, after I came to, I asked how did it come out? She said I was the best ***hole she's seen in three weeks! Yes, she said that. Wow. What a world of professional commedians. I didn't know whether to laugh, cry, or fart. And ALL of her assistants were WOMEN!!! I was surrounded by all women for my Buttatometry.!!

See, there's so much to talk about with your buddy. Keep up his spirits, by doing things like this. Life is full of funny crap all day long. Ask me how I know?

To the rest of you guys who's lost a loved one to this terrible disease, my utmost condolences. Very sorry, guys. It's really, really a tough thing to deal with. It'll be with you always. Real tough. I'm stopping now, as I don't want to run into tiresome cliches. (ah, damn it, I can't spell the word, you know what I mean.)

Remember all, get your butts reamed....it may save your life, and I'm not kidding.

Bruce '87 Grand National

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

hung out with my uncle today for about an hour
the guys is coming along super fast walking around sitting then standing then sitting i told him to just ask for what ever it was any way he is already eating sortta solids.
they removed "about a foot" and the doctors told him that "it looks real good"
the guy is in very good and positive spirits.
he is going for a check up sometime this week to see whats next.
Wish him luck
and thanks for all your support.

 

[JOHNDEEREGN]

hung out with my uncle today for about an hour
the guys is coming along super fast walking around sitting then standing then sitting i told him to just ask for what ever it was any way he is already eating sortta solids.
They removed "about a foot" and the doctors told him that "it looks real good"
the guy is in very good and positive spirits.
He is going for a check up sometime this week to see whats next.
Wish him luck
and thanks for all your support.

awesome news david!

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

awesome news david!

thanks
He is my Dad's youngest brother and my Dad was all teari-eyed

 

[ijames]

That's great. Make sure you suggest that he eats tiny meals, one can of soup or less, and if he wants more, eat more often, not more at one sitting. I still can't eat nearly as much as I want to at one sitting. Walking each day is great, just don't get too tired. Let it build gradually. Again, great that he's doing so well!

 

[charlief1]

Congrats to him David. This really is good news and I'm glad your family is still complete. Keep us informed on how he's doing in the future.

Glad to hear you're coming along as well Carl. Hope you're able to eat a big Thanksgiving dinner this year.:biggrin:

 

[chopped39]

Great news

hung out with my uncle today for about an hour
the guys is coming along super fast walking around sitting then standing then sitting i told him to just ask for what ever it was any way he is already eating sortta solids.
they removed "about a foot" and the doctors told him that "it looks real good"
the guy is in very good and positive spirits.
he is going for a check up sometime this week to see whats next.
Wish him luck
and thanks for all your support.

Thats some great news right there. good luck and prayers sent.

 

[turbo nasty]

Prayers sent

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

Thanks guys much appreciated

 

[injdinjn]

I just saw this.
Thats great. They will probably want to do cat scans every year to make sure they got it all.
I had a tumor removed from my stomach 3 years ago, all the probe testing was "inconclusive" so I put all my cars in the wifes and kids names. Turned out the tumor was benign so other than a big scar I'm ok. One alternative was stomach removal if malignant. - didnt even want that.
A friends mother, 83, had part of her lower intestine (colon?) removed 2 years ago and is doing great.

 

[Bruce Urie]

Absolutely great news!!! Prayers do work, and so does the love and caring of your buddies here on this forum. Thanks for letting us know. Great news!!

Bruce '87 Grand National

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

It looks like he with held a lot of info

the Cancer had spread to his stomach but still contained with-in in just a small ball.
his cancer was already in/at late stage 3, he has now a tube from his chest down to his stomach area for chemotherapy, he said that the doctors said he will have long road back but that they feel good about him being able to recover.:frown::redface:

 

[charlief1]

Glad to hear that he still has a chance David. Sometimes the fact that you're not sure how things are going to happen makes you keep quiet.

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

Up date
I saw my uncle and he looks like he aged 10 years
He said that he has 2 more sessions left then he goes for another scan.
We are hoping and praying.

 

[Bruce Urie]

David, just stay positive...hard to do, I know.

That cancer is a BITCH!!!! One of the most, ah hell, I don't know how to put it, just take care of him, be with him all you can. Keep his spirits up, make him laugh (maybe a picture of my face would help)

Thank you for updating us, but sorry he looks so much older....that cancer really can take a lot out of him, I know this first hand.

I promise you, David, I will keep your uncle in my prayers tonight and always. Hang in there buddy. Keep us posted, we care.

Bruce '87 Grand National

 

[TURBOPOWERED68]

thanks Bruce

we talked for a while and joked i told him how good he looks and his wife jumps in and says "He is dying, he looks like that because he has a jacket on" then the look on his face changed from :biggrin: to this :frown: talk about not thinking

 

[Bruce Urie]

Man, David, that IS insensitive. I just wish people would THINK in times like this. She probably is just going through this with lots of worry and hurt, which you might not realize.

I had something similar happen to me when my beloved Dad was dying of cancer in 2006. Spent everyday in the hospital with him by his side, watching the doctors test this, test that. Dad had matastic colon cancer which had spread to his liver....he was hurting so bad. Looking so helpless. And I felt so damn helpless to help Dad. Like a failure, if you will.

So, this one doctor looked Dad over and his swollen abdomen, then pulled me into the next room and said to me: "Your father only has two weeks to live. Tell him he'd better have his affairs in order. Go tell him this now." Well, with me always following directions the best I can and trying to please everybody, I went into the room and told Dad this: "Dad, the doctor said you only have two weeks to live, let me help you get your affairs in order for the family. I want to help you to the best of my ability with this."

Well, I was shocked beyond reasoning, my Dad SCREAMED at me he didn't want to hear any such thing, at the TOP OF HIS LUNGS, called me an idiot, how could I say such a thing to him, then just went limp.

I never felt or hurt so bad in all of my life, I had no idea I wasn't thinking. I was so hurt that I went into a closet and cried so hard that I thought I would pass out. For a very long time. Some time later I came out and only sat by Dad's side....all day, all through that night, trying to feed him, cover him up with blanket after blanket because he was so cold. Wiping his head, rubbing his horribly swollen arms. Unclogging his drain tube to his abdomen, which was filled with blood and horrible black stuff. Holding his hand, all through the evening and all through the night. Dad died the next morning at 12:33:17 AM with me by his side. He never talked to me again after incident. Never even looked at me. It could have been the moriphine. I don't know.

This happened five years ago, and it still hurts me in a way I can't describe. I've always been with this "did I do the right thing by following doctor's suggestion or should I have kept my mouth shut"....I'll never know. It bothers so bad even to this day. It keeps me awake at night a lot. It hurts me bad. So........

I know what insensitivity means and feel that in these difficult times, some people only think they're doing or saying the right thing, but they're not. They're just are not thinking clearly because of the shock of losing their loved one oh so slowly and painfully. It's extremely hard to watch. Very, very hard.

My prayers will include you, David, as it may help you also.

We all go through this in our lives, all of us, and how we deal with it is strictly up to us, the individual who is facing this hard chapter of our life. So do the best you can. Continue to comfort your uncle, joke with him, treat him like you've always done, talk about good times, rehash good memories, and laugh a lot. It's not easy, and will never be. It's a part of our life that everyone has to go through. Hard as it may be.

God bless.

Bruce '87 Grand National

 

[John Wilde]

You and your family are in my prayers!