Caught Cheating

[87chrisss]

My uncle just caught his wife cheating on him. They have been married 12 years and been together close to 18yrs aint that some .

Man it's hard when it hits close to home like that. He's always been very close to me. Ive never seen a grown man in so much emotional pain. He lost his wife. He loved his wife tremendously. He has 3 kids with her. I would love to trash her but not sure why she did that. My aunt always seemed to be such an angel. Seriously she was like always with the kids, he made decent money told her she didnt have to work if she didnt want to. She agreed to stay home and raise the kids. So he has supported her ass for close to 18 yrs and she has some nerve to do some selfishness like this. Really? Isn't it just better to break up and do what you gotta do?

i feel like because i just dont know what to tell him? I just keep telling him to keep his head up but he's pretty bad, not eating or sleeping well, he's like a different person.. What should i do?

 

[Phoneguy]

I believe the only thing you can do for him is to be there for him. Listen and not try to interject anything at all. Sorry to hear...

Bryan

 

[JOHNDEEREGN]

Ditto, just support him and let him talk.

 

[charlief1]

My ex in TN cheated on me 3 times in 2 years, and I even moved from Texas to TN for her. He's getting the short end of the stick and there's nothing you can do other than be there for him Chriss. If he's like me, then he might allow 1 other woman in his life but if something happens then he'll never allow another one unless it's got a tail and barks when he gets home. My 2 bitches are a handful but aren't as much trouble as the ladies I've had in my life over the years.

 

[charlief1]

My ex in TN cheated on me 3 times in 2 years, and I even moved from Texas to TN for her. He's getting the short end of the stick and there's nothing you can do other than be there for him Chriss. If he's like me, then he might allow 1 other woman in his life but if something happens then he'll never allow another one unless it's got a tail and barks when he gets home. My 2 bitches are a handful but aren't as much trouble as the ladies I've had in my life over the years.

 

[jasjamz]

What was her reason? People make mistakes. Learn from them and move on, with or without her. There is some lady out there dying to take her place, especially after this incident. Tell him to look around.

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[Pronto]

My wife cheated on her first husband of 6 years with me. We've been married 28 years. I never judge b/c you never know the whole story. Things can look perfectly fine to outsiders and empty to one or both of the couple. Bryan has the right idea.

 

[hungerbuhler1]

My x wife did same thing. At the time I felt same way. Lost 40 #'s in 2 weeks. Felt like it was the end of the world. Little did I know it was best thing that happened to me besides my 2 kids. There are so many women out there now days that will treat him like a king and let him be him. Internet dating makes it so easy to get over the ex and start moving on with life. It's like fishing in a barrel. Way too easy to find a new one.

My kids took it pretty rough but bounced back quick and actually love the lives we have now 4 years later. I get along great with the x now and we still team up about raising the kids.

Tell him things will be better soon and help him get out and meet someone to relieve the pain. Its amazing what a new piece of ass will do. It's magic

 

[Razor]

Its usually a big disconnect that happens over the years. The kids can add a lot of drama to a relationship.. sometimes the kids can make or break it. The communication is the first to break down, then the lack of attention, bills, drama, etc.. there are always two sides to every story. Its a great loss to have someone near you for so long have to stray and create the mess.
Just keep his spirits high, give him support, let him know God simply has other plans for him. There is a lot of pressure living in South Florida.
Wish him the best.

 

[BARRACUDA1968]

This happened to a good friend of mine after 32 years of marriage. No one saw it coming. She left him for his cousin. He was destroyed to say the least. The only thing that heals it is time unfortunately. Then it get's easier to move on. My friend was 57 years old with kids and grandkids. This was 2 years ago and everyone seems to have adjusted but nothing is the same in our circle of friends now. My buddy moved away and I never see hi ex wife anymore either. We used to go on vacation together every year and ride motorcycles all the time.

Not sure how old your Uncle is but in the case of my friend spending 32 years of his 57 years alive with one person and then one day it's gone is pretty tough to take. I couldn't even imagine.

Sorry to hear your uncle has to go through this but as they say if God leads you to it he will lead you through it.

 

[Rafs-T-Type]

She's the real loser in the situation. She lost someone who really loved her. He lost a cheater.

 

[TurboTdr3.8]

My X left for me for another but in the long run she was the loser as he took her for everything and put her in poverty then he died leaving her all the bills, She at that point was on the bottom of the barrel looking out and I was on top of barrel looking ahead and have not looked back since . She did me a big favor in the long run , so just remember things happen for a reason . Bryan has the right idea too .

 

[hiboom]

Time heals all wounds it will take a year to recover then he will be bitter been there done that


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[T Carter]

At the end of the day all of you guys are right. He will be the one on top when the smoke clears. He might not see it ,or even feel like it right now and it might take a couple yrs to truly get over it all, but whenever he does look world. All of us have been there at some point in life, but having 18yrs vested is hard , but it will get better.

T Carter

 

[windshearalert]

Had the same thing happen to me. That was 8 years ago. I divorced and actually found that I didn't know who I was anymore. It took a few months, but I now realize that I was trying to feed her needs with my soul and pocketbook. I have learned that everyone has a road to travel, and we can only make the decision for our own travel. Life is full of some hard twists and turns! I hope your uncle can get things ironed out and wind up stronger than he was before!

 

[TR Custom Parts]

Can almost guarantee Facebook was involved!

 

[Stage24u]

Seems like he worked alot, she stayed home...alot.

Women with too much free time, while hubby is away, often leads to bad things.

Sad story, but all too common.

 

[windshearalert]

Agreed on both above. Facebook is the Bane of relationships it seems. I have had so many old girlfriends look me up it is incredible. And Stage24u is right!

Believe me fellas- being 44 and single is no picnic! I see so many of my friends divorcing. Its like a disease.

I decided about 2 years ago to simply just enjoy an occasional stripper! Its cheaper than dating ! Ok im lying, but man I sounded badass eh? LOL

 

[Heisenberg]

I believe the only thing you can do for him is to be there for him. Listen and not try to interject anything at all. Sorry to hear...

Bryan

Other than to send her a card every year saying "Happy Birthday - You Sloot"
So far - I'm not seeing the downside.
I realize Uncle might not be a car guy, but to me:
More money, more time, and no one to nag and create drama.
And not to mention - you can now convert and repurpose those other two bedrooms to more functional uses - like storing parts or perhaps making one into a full blown powder coat / paint spray booth for parts.
The bathtub now becomes a parts washer, the oven a curing oven for powdercoating.
I'm just not seeing the problem I suppose.
It's a shame to hear though, since she sounds like such a gem.
The kind of woman you can really count on if the chips get down.
Principled and disciplined
Yeah - right.
Sounds like her operating motto is "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"
My advice to uncle - Rent, don't buy. They're depreciating assets.

And oh - I dig the way they always pull this crap right around the holidays.
Great timing.
Merry Christmas.

 

[Rafs-T-Type]

Seems like he worked alot, she stayed home...alot.

Women with too much free time, while hubby is away, often leads to bad things.

Sad story, but all too common.

Why is that though? Women back in the day almost always stayed home, but didn't seem to cheat in these numbers. Maybe they just didn't get caught as easily? Maybe is was just a different time where value meant a little more?