Here’s an update on my erratic 2004R
Towed it to a transmission shop to have them drop the pan and VB and look at the throttle valve plunger to see it it’s stuck or whatever and to do a pressure test.

“We’ve got the pan down. Lots of debris. No need to go further. It needs to be rebuilt.”
I was nearby and dropped in unannounced. I looked in the pan. Pan and remaining fluid looked clean except for one piece of something. “That’s clutch material. Trans is wasted.” I grabbed the piece and told them to put the pan back on. Go no further. I will pick up.
That piece of “clutch material”??? This sure looks like a piece of gasket!!
People wonder why I PTSD about repair shops…..