Having a Bad Day? Yeah, Life Sucks!

[2 QK 4 U]

My cousin had a similar problem. He shot his wife 2 times in the liver with a 45 auto and took his own life at 30 years old a little over a month ago. No matter how bad it gets it is never worth that. He is gone and everyone is grieving his death and he accomplished nothing. She lived and he is gone. Now there is a daughter that has no dad. I don't know if his parents and the family will ever get over this. She was the same way "never did anything wrong" You will get through this...it will just take time and money. I wish my cousin would have vented. Maybe I could have helped. He kept all the pain and hurt inside until he snapped.

sorry to hear that man. I guess that plan only sounds like a good idea at that moment in time. Later, it turns out to be a bad decision. I'm glad that I can control that part of me. The way I look at it is this. If she makes you feel that bad, she is no where near worth what your life is. especially when a child is envolved.
all i want is what's best for my child. and locking him in his room while she's up all night partying is not what he needs. especially since he's going through potty training right now.
.45 is a stout caliber, she must have been a tough customer.

 

[SavageATL]

Look on the bright side of things. SHE'S ALMOST OUT OF YOUR LIFE. The legal crap will get resolved, get a lawyer and the lawyer will stay on top of things. Yeah it'll cost you but at some point it's just money, you'll make it up.

Should you have to go through this? Hell no. Are you too good a guy to go through this? Of course, etc, etc., and bad things happen to good people and that's why they're bad things, if bad things happened to bad people only, then they wouldn't be bad things, would they, the rain falls on the just and the unjust. But you WILL GET THROUGH THIS AND YOU TOOK THE FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT STEP BY GETTING RID OF HER. I'm sure she's every inch of what you say she is and then some and after a while she and $ guy will get tired of having kid around. 2 and a half year olds do not mix well with 3 am punk rocker fun.

Bottom line is that at least you're in the tunnel and there's light at the end of it. You are so much better off having kicked her to the curb, let her be $$ guy's problem. I definitely sympathise.

 

[2 QK 4 U]

Thanks a lot. yea the money thing kinda blows. I just bought a new truck last year and finally got my GN going fast and race seasons around the corner. Looks like very limited fun for me for a long time. I guess it's better than having my son living in those conditions.

That stunt she pulled by getting a lawyer and setting that hearing date cost me $1,237 just for my lawyer to perpare and show up. Unreal. Charged me $2,750 for 18 hours of work on this last bill. That's $153 an hour. I make 6 times less than that! I've gotta get one of them lawyer'n jobs.

Look on the bright side of things. SHE'S ALMOST OUT OF YOUR LIFE. The legal crap will get resolved, get a lawyer and the lawyer will stay on top of things. Yeah it'll cost you but at some point it's just money, you'll make it up.

Should you have to go through this? Hell no. Are you too good a guy to go through this? Of course, etc, etc., and bad things happen to good people and that's why they're bad things, if bad things happened to bad people only, then they wouldn't be bad things, would they, the rain falls on the just and the unjust. But you WILL GET THROUGH THIS AND YOU TOOK THE FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT STEP BY GETTING RID OF HER. I'm sure she's every inch of what you say she is and then some and after a while she and $ guy will get tired of having kid around. 2 and a half year olds do not mix well with 3 am punk rocker fun.

Bottom line is that at least you're in the tunnel and there's light at the end of it. You are so much better off having kicked her to the curb, let her be $$ guy's problem. I definitely sympathise.

 

[rafael vasquez]

Dam bro I'm reading every thing and im shaking I belive that you are realy lucky get OUT FAST god is on your side so many good women out there i think you have lots to look foward I was a heavy meth user i am clean and sober since 12-07-05 I have a god working miricals every day please try to see the bright side.
1. you are alive
2. you are healthy
3. and found out all this in time
and lots more you are truly blessed stay strong please


Rafael.

 

[KevinB]

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[2 QK 4 U]

Rafael, thanks for the good words.

this whole thing has been like something out of a movie.

see, the thing is she can change characters and "act" like a decent human being when she is required to. Like in court. She was quiet, calm, and innocent. Then when she came by my house to pick up our son she barged in and started yelling "i've got rights, the judge said I can get it him " you lost in court (which is not true) and started disrespecting my mother and yelling all the way out to the street. How can someone act like this? she's 31 years old and acts like a 6th grader.

 

[KevinB]

I didn't know you had a little boy. Get a hold of me if you need to get away sometime. I have two boys the same age. Bring him over. We can let my wife watch all of them, then we can go to Edgewater or TriState or work on one of the Buicks

 

[2 QK 4 U]

I didn't know you had a little boy. Get a hold of me if you need to get away sometime. I have two boys the same age. Bring him over. We can let my wife watch all of them, then we can go to Edgewater or TriState or work on one of the Buicks

Sounds cool. We'll definately do that soon.

 

[KevinB]

Sounds cool. We'll definately do that soon.

Anytime bro!
Just shoot me a PM or call my cell 513.616.7832

 

[SouthernCal GN]

Rafael, thanks for the good words.

this whole thing has been like something out of a movie.

see, the thing is she can change characters and "act" like a decent human being when she is required to. Like in court. She was quiet, calm, and innocent. Then when she came by my house to pick up our son she barged in and started yelling "i've got rights, the judge said I can get it him " you lost in court (which is not true) and started disrespecting my mother and yelling all the way out to the street. How can someone act like this? she's 31 years old and acts like a 6th grader.

Keep the video camera always at the ready- hidden and obvious. Put signs up that state "all activities on these premises are videotaped" and point out the sign to her. Get her on tape to acknowledge that she is aware of the signs and the videotaping activity. Don't tell her about the hidden cameras.

When she comes over, turn the cameras on, and eventually you'll have her on tape/DVD rantin' and ravin'.......evidence aplenty.

 

[2 QK 4 U]

Keep the video camera always at the ready- hidden and obvious. Put signs up that state "all activities on these premises are videotaped" and point out the sign to her. Get her on tape to acknowledge that she is aware of the signs and the videotaping activity. Don't tell her about the hidden cameras.

When she comes over, turn the cameras on, and eventually you'll have her on tape/DVD rantin' and ravin'.......evidence aplenty.

BRILLIANT! :biggrin:

 

[rafael vasquez]

2 quik 4 u I understad that behavior beacuse i am the same way addictive personality they say "AA" all alcoholics, druggies we all think the same way being in the program for a solid 2 years i choose to belive that my life depends on it.
keep your cool don't loose it, she doesen't have a clue of what's going on.
for you I would recomed a few alonon meeting's just so you better understad the thinking of an alcoholic,meth, and all other drugs users, I beleave in recovery only if the user is serious about there live's.
please seek help so you can better understand
1. ALONON
2. AA
3. NA
just for you to understa thanx sorry if i being pushy or nosie.

o im 35 years old now so not to far away from age group, sober 2 years my life is great I have a god working in my life
Rafael

 

[2 QK 4 U]

Rafael, you give some great advice. Thanks.
I can't imagine how these 2 years have felt for you.
I think it's great that you have come so far. A lifestyle without drugs is a controlled one and when you have control of your life better things happen and the better off you are.

I believe that she is in denial about her condition. Unfortunately if she does not see it nobody can help her. I tried for almost 4 years and failed. Only for my boy though. I normally would not pick somebody with those problems and destroy my life trying to fix them. One day she will realize what is going on, if she lives that long. Just seems like a speeding bullet must stop sooner or later.

 

[silentbutdeadly]

Jason.....trisate is open.....time we make a run...hopefully we dont have a repeat of what happened on the way home from Kilkare..LMAO Give me a call. Deren

 

[KevinB]

Jason.....trisate is open.....time we make a run...hopefully we dont have a repeat of what happened on the way home from Kilkare..LMAO Give me a call. Deren

Make sure you guys let me know if you are going

 

[2 QK 4 U]

Jason.....trisate is open.....time we make a run...hopefully we dont have a repeat of what happened on the way home from Kilkare..LMAO Give me a call. Deren

From the looks of the fix it's unlikely.
I still keep 2 fire extinguishers in my car. At $15 ea it's good insurance.

 

[2 QK 4 U]

Make sure you guys let me know if you are going

Sure will man.

I may bring along a friend of mine as well. He's got a monte SS, small block, dart pro 1 heads, roller cam, and a fogger system. should run dam good.

 

[87GN.Rickie]

Though I walk in the midst of trouble, You will revive me; You will strech out Your had against the wrath of my enemies, and your right hand will save me.

Those are words I repeat to myself every time I have to go back to court with the EX! It's been 3years and the BS is still going on. I know what you're going through. It does get easier though