how to convince rich friend to get a pre nup

[87grandnat]

you are right about me giving out to much info, i didnt realize it until after i posted it, i spoke to him the other day and he's set on not getting one so i hope everything goes ok

Joshua

 

[turbot2496]

Geez... divorce lawyers have wet dreams about guys like this....

Tell your friend good luck because the odds are definatly against him

 

[BandAid]

how the heck did he make it thru college,ohh wait he plays football....
please try and name anyone popular that has been married for more than 5yrs,

 

[BLACK6PACK]

Not to be morbid, but what if 3-5 years down the road he gets killed on the field or in a car crash. Does he want his new wife to get his entire fortune or does he want his family (mom and dad) to get some of it. The 3 grandkids in the family made our grandfather get a prenup when he got married at 80. The lady was nice, but my grandfather got killed 5 years later in a car crash. The good thing about the prenup is that it made everything very clear. We had his wishes in writing. There was none of "this is what he would have wanted." My mother got his entire estate. His new wife was able to live in his house in indiana and florida as long as she wanted, my mom paid the bills for both houses out of the estate, and there was no grey area to argue about.

 

[GNSCOTT]

Just so he knows too, the only rock solid pre nup is a video taped pre nup with his wife to be doing alot of the talking.

Tell him to ask himself if he has been the same person all of his life. Has any of his attitudes or opinions, likes, dislikes changed over the years (of course they have) People change and can grow together, or apart. You should also tell him that if it is definitely going to last forever, she can sign the pre-nup and they will never have to use it. He has an obligation to himself, his family, and his future family to make sure his money is protected. As long as he is married his wife i'm sure can have all the money she wants.

I will stay away from the fact that you can never know someone after that short time. Alot of relationships are heavenly for a whole year. Right now his girl has no money, and we all know what suddenly getting money can do to people.

 

[87grandnat]

i agree with you both, i think i am going to try to talk to him one more time, but i am beginning to realize that its his move and he is the one that has to live with it either way it goes

thanks,
Joshua

 

[BandAid]

have him put a few million in your bank account needing his signature to remove it,you keep interest and he has a efw million left in 6 months,isnt that the average now days,

 

[GNICETRY]

Is the girl he is marrying a Christian also?

 

[87grandnat]

yes she is, with him it wouldnt have even been considered if she wasnt a christian

Joshua

 

[SuzyQ]

As a Christian- There is nothing in the Bible that says you should not have a pre-nup.He must realize there are millions of Christians that start out wanting it to be forever,and reality is that it doesn't always happen that way. If her true intent is to be there till the end- it will not bother her in the least.Try to have him go discuss this with his Pastor.There is no such thing as a perfect Christian or we wouldn't need Jesus. Suzette

 

[GNBRETT]

A 60% DIVORCE RATE SHOULD TELL HIM SOMETHING! ONE CAN CERTANLY NOT SAY THAT THE OTHER 40% ARE HAPPILY MARRIED. OF THAT 40% HOW MANY OF THEM STAY MARRIED AFTER A FEW YEARS GO BY BECAUSE THEY WANT TO? VERY FEW....! MOST SIMPLY HAVE TO FOR FINANCIAL REASONS UNLESS THEY WANT TO MOVE INTO A ROOMING HOUSE. THIS MIGHT SOUND SINICAL BUT THE NUMBERS DONT LIE!

I PERSONALLY KNOW OF ONE GUY THAT AFTER RETURNING HOME FROM DIVORCE COURT WAS NOW LIVING BELOW POVERTY LEVEL....! OF COURSE HE HAD KIDS BUT A LARGE PORTION WENT TO ALIMONY. HE ENDED UP BLOWING HIS HEAD OFF A FEW YEARS LATER.

THE ODDS OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE TODAY ARE ABOUT 15-20% IF UR LUCKY! A SPORTS ATHLETE HAS WAY MORE TO LOOSE FINANCIALLY THEN THE REST OF US DO. I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE CANT DATE FOR SEVERAL YEARS BEFORE GETTING MARRIED? TELL HIM THAT IF MARRIAGE IS FOREVER HOW IS A COUPLE OF YEARS GOING TO CHANGE THAT? IT BECOMES A LEGAL DOCUMENT FOR HER TO SQUEEZE MONEY OUT OF HIM WHEN THEY GO THEIR SEPERATE WAYS WHICH IS MORE LIKELY TO HAPPEN THEN NOT!

 

[GNICETRY]

Joshua-
Since the woman is also a Christian, then there is only one reason acccording to the Bible that they would be able to get divorced. No one on this site knows the heart or intentions of your friend or the woman, possibly you might know the best.
To answer your question in the post, I would have a sit down talk with him and possibly his parents also and discuss this. I would imagine that his parents would be a little suspicious unless there is more info that we don't know i.e. she is a family friend, or they have been going to Church together for quite some time. His parents have at least 20 more years experience each than him in this world and would want the best for their son. The pre nup is of second importance, make sure that he knows that divorce is not an option. It is forever. My personal opinion is 5 months seems a little soon, but I don't know all the facts.

 

[need boost]

well I can see 5 months as to fast but I asked my wife to marry me fast and we are still great after 10 years so you can't really go only on that. As far as a prenup goes, if she truly loves him, I MEAN really loves him then the money means nothing!!! So weather she signs or not shouldn't matter to her either way. I would sign one for my wife if she had a ton of money when we got together just to show her I loved HER! Not her money! Daniel Ray

 

[87grandnat]

i wonder if i could get his named removed from the first post, i could go into moe detail but really wish i didnt put his name, and number in my first post, i guess i wasnt thinking, if a moderator sees this could you please edit it and remove his name and number?

thanks,

and i still appreciate all the replies,
Joshua

 

[Ratman]

i wonder if i could get his named removed from the first post, i could go into moe detail but really wish i didnt put his name, and number in my first post, i guess i wasnt thinking, if a moderator sees this could you please edit it and remove his name and number?

thanks,

and i still appreciate all the replies,
Joshua

Josh,
You should be able to edit your own post. I would stay away from her with no pre-nup.