Believe me, she never lets me forget it. And its way overboard. She has no hobbies other than shopping, so its much better for her that I sit on the couch and stare at the TV with her, than do something I enjoy. I've asked her to come out and work on the car with me or at least hang out while I work on it, if she's so concerned with us being together every second. But she never takes me up on it. I cant change my spark plugs without "you're always working on that thing...you love that car more than me! "I hate that car!.."its stupid and ugly"....I get **** for washing it once every 2 months! I used to hear the EXACT same thing with the cobra. Then today she tells me I should have never sold the cobra and I was an idiot to do that and it was so nice...blah blah blah...Without an outlet for your passions, you die. And Ive been in that boat for awhile. She is the furthest thing from a hot rodder's chick. Not 1 guy in her family is into cars, so she doesnt get it. To her, life is all about family. Nothing wrong with that, but when family lives so far, and has control of everything you think and do, when you're 29 years old...thats too much. Time to think for yourself. There are so many family functions, its hard sometimes to get anything done, when her family lives 50 miles away. And they never will drive to us, its always to them. If you dont show up, no matter if you're in the emergency room, then the "he doesnt love you...and "you deserve better" whispering in her ear starts, which ends in tons of trouble at home...a bunch of people who I'm very nice to, and are nice to me to my face, and then stab me in the back....trust me, I know no one who could hold her up and support her through so much nonsense for so long. I get that, but when your mother in law tells your wife how to think, feel, what to expect, what to do, no matter how bad the advise, she does what her mom thinks she should do, and never ever listens to anything I say we need to do. Had I had some cooperation, we would have alot of cash in the bank and have multiple properties by now, great credit again....but every time I want to do the right thing, she has to shut it down, because she's more about the feeling of "right now" than the common sense of what tomorrow will bring if you dont prepare. She is the strongest willed woman Ive ever known and no matter what you say or do, she's getting what she wants and calls it "compromise". I was saying a year and a half ago that a real estate crash was coming and we needed to sell our house at peak before we were upside down and trapped. I gave her tons of credible info from many people in the know...through someone close who "knows things"....cant be more detailed than that. We could have walked away with 90k after only living there 3 years, paid all our bills, fixed our credit, have cash in the bank, wait for the crash to happen, buy a bigger, better house, cheaper, and start buying other property. She did her usual tantrum, throwing household objects at me and screaming that she didnt want to "take a step back" by losing the house and living in a condo for a couple years. I said the step back was coming no matter what, but the question is "how do you want to come out of the "step back"? I said "do you want to come out of this by losing the house to a bankruptcy"...which its looking like the only option now. I'm fortunate to have grown up around many real estate masters, and she couldnt take advantage of it cause she's too obsessed with the fact she's the only one of her friends with a house, and couldnt let it go. She ignored and refused to believe what I was saying about the coming crash, and called the master of finance, her mother, who told her the same thing all her coddling family members do...tell her what feels warm and fuzzy and safe "right now" and told her "theres no crash coming, just refinance the house and stay there". No matter the stink I made, nothing can trump mother in law's dictate. So like prophecy, heres the crash, the 90k in equity is gone, after an equity refi with a stupid rate on an interest only loan, and a collapsing market with destroyed credit. A loan designed for people who just want a house and could care less about terms. Those loans are the reason the foreclosure rate is at record highs. Its been an exhausting uphill battle from day 1.
I think you guys are witnessing the downward spiral before complete madness, lol.
This is some real tech talk here....jesus. I'm always bitching about something, and I think I can trace everything to 1 point.
Buy a commuter car, work on getting a higher paying job, invest some money in a house, retirement and kids schooling, THEN buy a toy. I had to drop out of the Buick scene for a few years to get my kids through high school and Crew (championship rowing, they competed nationally and THAT ain't cheap folks!
Take a step back and take a breath of fresh air.....You will have a huge burden lifted from your shoulders.
