If your boost is jumping to 20 psi with the actuator rod just a little tight, then no boost controller is going to help you. The mechanical system is just not capable of keeping the boost down.
Well, now that I think about it, there may be one exception. You could possibly get your chip re-burned to have a much lower wastegate solenoid duty cycle. That may help your problem. Here's how you can find out: take the Y-hose between the turbo, actuator, and solenoid off the car. Connect a new hose from the fitting on the turbo outlet to the actuator. In other words, you're taking the solenoid out of the system. Make sure your connections are tight - you don't want this hose to blow-off during the test (boost will spike up fast if it does - BAD!). Set the actuator rod to the longest it can be while still holding the puck closed. You should have to stretch the rod just a little to get it to slide over the puck. Take the car out and do a WOT run, while watching your boost gauge. The boost you see under this condition is the lowest possible boost your system can get, regardless of what type of controller or chip you use. If the boost is still too high, or if it creeps badly, then you need to port the wastegate hole. If the boost is low and steady, you should be able to get your chip re-burned to control it (after you re-install the Y-hose, of course).
These 49's are a pain. They like to spool so much, they can be difficult to control. It's worth it, though!