Torque??
The first 4 cycles should be done in a rod vise to prevent the caps from being twisted when the torque is applied.
Also, the machine shop should have retorqued the bolts more than just when they were resizing them. A resized rod that is not loosened, checked for out of round and resized again, if not dead on,, most likey will be out of round once the bearings are inserted and the engine is assembled. This will reduce the desired brg clearance,[at the parting line] and that reduction can be the difference in a brg failing or continuing to live.. BTDT!!
When the rods are torqued in the engine, they must be "shimmed' w/ feeler gauges to prevent the caps from being pulled,[twisted] off location and thus mis-aligning the brg shells.
Next.. You may have the WRONG directions... As you said, the inst said to "loosen the nuts" and re-torque.. That is a steel to steel contact and as I said in my previous post, the stockers are cast, and as such, are much weaker in the threads than a steel rod.
The key to the directions being wrong is the reference to the stretch gauge. A stretch ga. is used on a nut and bolt combo, not on a bolt into thread combo.
Did the shop give you the original tech sheet that comes w/ EVERY set of ARP fasteners??
I'd certainly call ARP [805-981-1329 and ask
Bottom line is: these rods are JUNK and using them after the threads are pulled is asking for a membership into the DOTC club!!