The ring manufacturer will have a recommendation for their product. It will put you where you need to be. They also will have a tech line you may call to discuss your needs.
Go with the same gap on both top and 2nd rings. A bit more gap on the 2nd helps the top ring seal. I'd shoot for .020" myself, .010" is too little gap and could lead to the ring ends butting togther which makes a real mess.