How do you manage to keep your car hobby going?
Here's my story:
I'm married, I have a 4 month old baby girl who I love dearly. Mom stays home and takes care of baby and house while I'm off to work.
I'm military so I'm not rich, but I'm not exactly poor either. We live in a nice duplex in the country, we have a nice 2007 Honda CRV, then I have an old beater S-10 and the Regal.
I dont smoke, I do drink sometimes but not a lot. Wife does neither. We usually wear our Wal Mart brand clothes unless going out somewhere nice (which isn't often) then I'll wear some of my name brand clothes I have.
Now I have always put bills and the baby first in life. But here recently I received a $70 increase in my military housing allowance and I also just received like $100 or so increase in my base pay.
So I decide I'd like to take....maybe $25 every pay check and put in a savings account and slowly save up so I can use for personal things like if I want to buy something for the Regal.
Well I run this across the wife because even though I made the money and she takes care of the bills I feel she should know....and of course we agreed to talk about finances. Well I run it across her and it seems she takes it the wrong way. And this seems to always happen whenever I talk of how I'd like to "save up for something".
As an end result it usually ends up in an argument.
She thinks I'm not looking out for our future. She thinks all I want to do is live in the moment and not worry about anything else. Yes I will admit I want to have fun, and I understand I can't have all the fun I want to have but face it - you only live once, make the best use of the time God gives you on earth.
I learned a long time ago you can't live by the "what if what if" mind set....or you'll end up dying and never getting to really enjoy life to the fullest.
As for my wife....she grew up in poverty not having anything and thus IMO clutches onto every penny she can. I tell her that it's not as if I'm asking to take $100 a paycheck and save it. I honestly don't see why saving $25 a paycheck would hurt. I get paid twice a month. I told her "what if I smoked a pack a day...now times that by 7 days, see how much it adds up to". Now see how much I'm asking to take out of my check each payday? It's less than one who smokes a pack a day.
So with that said in the last 6 months, I've been selling off things out of my garage and home for "play money". I sold an engine I really wanted to build. I sold the stand it stood on. I've sold misc. car parts I had around the garage. I've sold radios. Anything I had worth anything in the garage I sold for play money.
Now thankfully right now my TR starts and runs and drives. But there's still improvements I'm doing to it. I want to put in new carpet. I want to get an appraisal on it once I have it fixed up how I want it.
And of course I don't drag race it (though I want to) because (1.) I don't want to crash into the wall and possibly not be there anymore for my little girl/wife and (2.) I don't want to break the car and not be able to afford to fix it.
Before we married I had a lot of cash to spend as I pleased, but rearely ever did....I don't immediatley blow a wad of money when i get it. I just shop around and buy a little here and there.
When we married she said she wouldn't make me give up my hobby. But if I can't take a little out of every check, then how am I supposed to keep this hobby going? Getting a 2nd job really isn't an option. As of now I'm thinking of setting up an allotment to a savings account and then using that as play money and letting the rest go into the check book. She doesn't check my LES's, just how much goes into the account.
I'm sure some of you have had a similar issue as mine, so I'd like to see how you are able to keep your hobby going while married and having a kid.
Here's my story:
I'm married, I have a 4 month old baby girl who I love dearly. Mom stays home and takes care of baby and house while I'm off to work.
I'm military so I'm not rich, but I'm not exactly poor either. We live in a nice duplex in the country, we have a nice 2007 Honda CRV, then I have an old beater S-10 and the Regal.
I dont smoke, I do drink sometimes but not a lot. Wife does neither. We usually wear our Wal Mart brand clothes unless going out somewhere nice (which isn't often) then I'll wear some of my name brand clothes I have.
Now I have always put bills and the baby first in life. But here recently I received a $70 increase in my military housing allowance and I also just received like $100 or so increase in my base pay.
So I decide I'd like to take....maybe $25 every pay check and put in a savings account and slowly save up so I can use for personal things like if I want to buy something for the Regal.
Well I run this across the wife because even though I made the money and she takes care of the bills I feel she should know....and of course we agreed to talk about finances. Well I run it across her and it seems she takes it the wrong way. And this seems to always happen whenever I talk of how I'd like to "save up for something".
As an end result it usually ends up in an argument.
She thinks I'm not looking out for our future. She thinks all I want to do is live in the moment and not worry about anything else. Yes I will admit I want to have fun, and I understand I can't have all the fun I want to have but face it - you only live once, make the best use of the time God gives you on earth.
I learned a long time ago you can't live by the "what if what if" mind set....or you'll end up dying and never getting to really enjoy life to the fullest.
As for my wife....she grew up in poverty not having anything and thus IMO clutches onto every penny she can. I tell her that it's not as if I'm asking to take $100 a paycheck and save it. I honestly don't see why saving $25 a paycheck would hurt. I get paid twice a month. I told her "what if I smoked a pack a day...now times that by 7 days, see how much it adds up to". Now see how much I'm asking to take out of my check each payday? It's less than one who smokes a pack a day.
So with that said in the last 6 months, I've been selling off things out of my garage and home for "play money". I sold an engine I really wanted to build. I sold the stand it stood on. I've sold misc. car parts I had around the garage. I've sold radios. Anything I had worth anything in the garage I sold for play money.
Now thankfully right now my TR starts and runs and drives. But there's still improvements I'm doing to it. I want to put in new carpet. I want to get an appraisal on it once I have it fixed up how I want it.
And of course I don't drag race it (though I want to) because (1.) I don't want to crash into the wall and possibly not be there anymore for my little girl/wife and (2.) I don't want to break the car and not be able to afford to fix it.
Before we married I had a lot of cash to spend as I pleased, but rearely ever did....I don't immediatley blow a wad of money when i get it. I just shop around and buy a little here and there.
When we married she said she wouldn't make me give up my hobby. But if I can't take a little out of every check, then how am I supposed to keep this hobby going? Getting a 2nd job really isn't an option. As of now I'm thinking of setting up an allotment to a savings account and then using that as play money and letting the rest go into the check book. She doesn't check my LES's, just how much goes into the account.
I'm sure some of you have had a similar issue as mine, so I'd like to see how you are able to keep your hobby going while married and having a kid.