Two and a half years and now I'm lost

[KEVINS]

Originally posted by d0n_3d
..girls in their mid 20's are ALOT more mature and settled and it's better to date older girls if you can...i just wish i could find one!

NO THEY'RE NOT!!
It seems that most of you guys are still around 20-25yrs and when you see a "older" gal 24-26 you think they are mature. They are NOT! I'll repeat it: THEY ARE NOT!
They may be more mature than your 19-22 year old GF but they still act and think like immature young adults. The reason why they seem mature for you younger guys is b/c they have learned more in life and have shed some of their childish attitudes, thoughts and behaviors. But they are STILL learning and trying to figure out how to deal with life and all that it has to offer which is why young people break up "for no reason". At the age of mid 20's people think that they are ready to settle down and get married but that is an adult feeling that they JUST learned but yet they don't know how precess it. It "just seems like the thing to do" because that seems to be the next logical step in life. Divorce comes later.

I'm 37 and I have approx 15 GF's that are in the 25-28 year old range and approx 8 that are 30+ and the mentality difference between a 26 yr old and a 28yr old is HUGE! The 28 yr old is SOO MUCH more "mature" than the 26 but the 28's still are trying to find themselves. All of the 30's are settled and I would trust them 100% not to leave for "unknown reasons".

Most young (28 and younger) Gals will leave b/c they are discovering that there is more to life than just YOU. They NEED to discover EVERYTHING out there THEN decide who they want to spend their life with. A gal who hasn't experienced all that the world has to offer will eventually find a door (Itally) and realize that life will be much more fun on the other side of the fence.
How do I KNOW this? Like I said I have a lot of younger female friends and I have seem them do it and they talk to me about it.

Time to move on, bud!!

Regards
ks

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

Re: BOGUS BELIEF

Originally posted by Two Lane
Originally posted by:88CuttyClassic:

"The smooth talkers will prey on them and talk your girl right out of love with you"
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Ace, if ANY one can "talk your girl out of love with you", do you really think she actually L-O-V-E-D you?

(The genuine love of an honest mature mentally-stable human being just doesn't work like that.)

HTH

who knows what he said to her thou, he could have sabatoged me. Immature girls can be influenced. She'll be back after the honeymoon effect of this jag off wears off.

 

[d0n_3d]

yeah i just found out my g/f was seeing another guy behind my back and then she couldnt bring herself to break up with me until 2 days after she met this guy...but now a week later she says she doesnt like this guy and is now talking to me again...i guess she was just testing the waters and wanted to be "free" for a little bit...she told me i was getting too serious with her and that she needed space...ok why didn't you just tell me that instead of saying "oh we're done"

GIRLS

 

[Joe 1320]

Originally posted by d0n_3d
yeah i just found out my g/f was seeing another guy behind my back and then she couldnt bring herself to break up with me until 2 days after she met this guy...but now a week later she says she doesnt like this guy and is now talking to me again...i guess she was just testing the waters and wanted to be "free" for a little bit...she told me i was getting too serious with her and that she needed space...ok why didn't you just tell me that instead of saying "oh we're done"

GIRLS

Ha! my ex-wife tried the same BS. After our seperation, when her life was now falling apart, her boyfriend dumped her and she wanted to cry on my shoulder. I told her that evidently I wasn't good enough to be her husband before, I'm sure as hell not gonna play the role now. You made your bed, now lay in it.

These types of women are total losers.

 

[d0n_3d]

i had to revive this thread...my ex just emailed me back last night saying "hi babe! i wrote a half page email today and i went to send it and it didn't allow me. my message was erased. so i'm sending you this little one to see if it goes through. i will hopefully email you tomorrow if i have time. why don't you give me a call around eleven tomorrow nite on my cell phone. i have free minutes. by the way to you still have your cell phone? talk to you tomorrow"

i have been home all this week because i got in a major car accident with my 01 dodge intrepid...it was a ball of metal after i was done with it and i am lucky to be alive today with only some bruises and abrasions...anyways i was gonna give her a week of not talking to her but not even 2 days later she has emailed me? i am very excited right now but i probably don't want to get my hopes up TOO much just in case it's bad...but i know her and i sense this is where she wants to get back together...

 

[turboscott]

This is the time to take control of your life and the relationship. If you just run back to her now she knows she will have you wrapped around her finger forever. Make her sweat a little. If your mechanic works on your car and screws up do you take it back to him 2 days later and let him do whatever he wants with it or do you go back to him and make him earn your trust again by doing small things first like an oil change or something.

My first girlfriend cheated on me numerous times. Each time I kept saying to myself, she will never do it again. Each time she did a little bit more. She started with kissing this guy, then the next time she went to his house she gave him a you know what, the third time she went to his house and asked him to go all the way. Girls are just as much scum as guys can be. They stay with the nice guy while they wait for someone better to come along. The day we broke up I was asking her about the final time she cheated. She of course didn't want to talk about it and then she accused me of bugging her. I walked out the door and never looked back. I remember hearing her yell for me to stay. I went to see her at work like 3 weeks later. She saw me coming and had a huge smile on her face. (She worked at an ice cream stand in the summer) I got up to her window and she was talking to me like nothing happened. I gave her her stuff I had of hers and turned around and walked away. The next time I saw her was 5 years later at my cousins wedding (that is how we met, she was a friend of my cousins). She was in the wedding. I saw her on the dance floor. She was about 60 lbs heavier and dancing with my other cousin because she didn't have a date. I was walking out there with my 97 lb wife.

The point here is, there is someone better waiting for you. It doesn't feel like it now but she treated you like crap and now she wants you back because her initial plan didn't go the way she wanted. If she is treating you this way now do you really think she will change, especially if you just run back to her now???

 

[Joe 1320]

Make her work for it a little. If you don't you will be destined to repeat the whole thing again.

 

[turboscott]

That was my point just about 1000 less words. I have to learn to be more brief.

 

[d0n_3d]

well right now i cant decide anything until i find out what is going on with her...she may be contacting me to say "i am in love with this other guy...can we still be friends?" i mean i don't know what is going to happen yet...i am not getting my hopes up...i am expecting the worse...if she does want me back then i will gladly forgive her BUT it will have to be under my terms and she will have to do some serious apologizing...we are each other's first real true loves so it's gonna be hard for us to separate for a while...