Because of what Jesus did for me on that cross,my heavenly father doesn't count any of my sins against me. He knows that I have a disease that was caused by Adam eating the fruit of the forbidden tree of the knowledge of good and evil. God hates the disease I have,not me. I see Tom as a person in need and want to be one of the people who help him and not one of the people who point at him. I discovered long ago that every time I point my finger at someone,and condemn them for something they are doing,I've been guilty of that same thing many times.