I still can't get over my ex-g/f

[ncgreg231]

broader perspectives...

Well, for what you invested in the relationship, I'm not going to say flush it and forget it, although I DO have to say that if you let this girl (or any other for that matter) trample you like a floormat, I might have to track you down and give you a good butt kicking myself (and I'm really a peaceful guy if you ever meet me in person).

I don't remember where I saw this, but it was a picture of a cute female bartender who wore this t-shirt that said "Men are like floor tiles, I you lay them right the first time, you can walk over them forever!" (moral of the story - don't be a floor tile)

I use to think I was the biggest loser with womem. (Perhaps some might say I still am?) But I digress. I am highly recommending the following: "A man's guide to women" http://www.getgirls.com/manguide.htm Lot's of great advice (IMHO) Money back guarantee too? For only $12.95, it's not much to lose. It helped me tremendously (but yeah, I really needed the help.) HTH.

-Greg

 

[V6DVette]

This maybe a bit crude but I've always found the best way to get over a woman is to get on top of another one
Truth be told shes leading you along here incase it doesn't work out with the poor jerk she doing this week. I know the type well....we all do.

 

[Gmachine]

Ditch her! Tell her to never call you again. Believe me it's hard, but if you put a good effort into it I can promise you thing will turn out for the best. She sounds a bit immiture(SP)! Like most her age! Move on and don't look back. Don't go looking for someone to replace her right away either, cause your hurt and that isn't fair to the other. Just take some time to heal, hangout with friends and keep yourself BUSY!!! Avoid her at all cost! She's already started to realize she made a mistake, now it's your turn! Learn from your experiences and grow. You can ask all my friends, I've done all this and am a much better person now. NO, I don't have girlfriend yet, but I know there coming soon, I'm just a lot smarter now about what to look for and what I want.

Ryan

 

[aperrego]

Well.. Turn the table on her.. Lure her in, get a quick booteee Call and tell her well..." I am tired of the same old thing"....

 

[bob86gn]

When you met her 10 years from now and you have nice job and she has 3 kids and got fat you'll thank us.

Amen, Brother! Let her go, nothing good can come of this.

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

now for the voice of reason.

you heard a whole lot of reasons not to take her back but only you can decided what's important. If you Love her like you say, you'll accept her faults and forgive her for what she did. If you let her go and she comes comes back it was meant to be and if she doesn't it never was. I'm in in the same boat with you right now, i was with my girl for 2.5 years and i became the jealous type and pushed her away. I haven't seen my ex in two months but we still have email contact. we are trying to get back our friendship. She has a new man but i already see signs that it isn't gonna last. I still love her and i would take her back in a heartbeat if she says she still cares. Not every girl is a snake but not every guy has to treat them that way either. there are still some genuinly sincer people out there. None of us know this girl except you. you have to determine for yourself if you think she is trust worthy to take back. You have to watch out for the "backstabbers" you know the song by the group the O'jays. Its about people that smile to your face but the whole time they want what you have. If all else fails just be happy about all the good stuff that happend. Cars are very theraputic for a broken heart cause you can just drop the hammer and drive away from it. You might be at the point where everysingle thing in your daily routine reminds you of her. Don't worry bro, keep it spooled up.

 

[Joe 1320]

Originally posted by d0n_3d


basically I found out that the reason she dumped me was because she met some dude while seeing me still and in her mind this guy was "something new" and "different" rather than the old boring me and the same old relationship (this was her words)

Told ya. She is a loser, move on. The fact that she did that should tell you something. No matter how much you may still want her, if you take her back eventually she'll do it again. No offence, but She is a loser! Let her know how much she screwed up a good thing and dump her quick. You don't need a woman like that.

 

[d0n_3d]

Originally posted by 88 CuttyClassic
You might be at the point where everysingle thing in your daily routine reminds you of her.

SO TRUE...yikes you nailed that one...even when I listen to certain songs that i used to listen while with her...i think of her!

personally i am a believer of giving someone a second chance to prove themself...i honestly believe this girl is just LOST...completely lost...her mind is all screwed up...she's using this guy just to take everything off her mind...i mentioned that to her and she said "wow you definitely know me well don't you!" i was like yeah this guy of yours is just a temporary fix until you can gather your thoughts...

i am gonna give her time...i think she is eventually going to come around...but in order for me to consider taking her back she is gonna have to do alot of apologizing and begging and doing alot of explanation...i just can't see a girl just "dumping" her first true love, a guy who did everything for her, and didn't do anything wrong in the relationship and just start going with someone else...and staying with him...

if none of the above is true...she's getting the boot! no ifs ands or buts about it...i am not contacting her until she decides to come back...if another girl decides to come around and show me some love i am jumping all over for it...i am by no means WAITING for my ex...how does that sound? i am TRYING to get my car fixed too...i haven't been able to drive it since the breakup...that's when my tranny went out (when it rains, it pours)...once i get my car fixed all will be well again

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

...i just can't see a girl just "dumping" her first true love, a guy who did everything for her, and didn't do anything wrong in the relationship and just start going with someone else...and staying with him...

i just got my girl a TV for her B-day in april, a real nice phillips flat screen and then when we broke up she said i never put enough thought into my presents, i just bought stuff. I did everything for her. I can relate totally to the above comment. i don't think i will be back with my ex soon but i still belive she'll be the mother of my kids.

By the way, why does every country song have to relate to my life??? ARGH!!!!

 

[d0n_3d]

i know what you mean man...in the meantime i will give love to my GN...it's getting a fresh new rebuilt tranny next week! i'm sure it will like that

 

[Gary Wells]

Don: FWIW & IMHO:
I don't want to be rude, crude, & socially unacceptable, nor do I want to rain on your parade, but that woman is going to drain you finacially, physically, mentally. emotionally, and then split again. If you take her back she will hang around for a while and then split again. Why: because you took her back encouraging her to do it again. Once bitten, twice shy & once: shame on her, twice: shame on you. I wish you the best, but I feel that you are headed for disaster. You will find so much talent in college you will forget all about her. Guaranteed.

 

[88 CuttyClassic]

why are there so many bitter guys here? personally hooking up with random girls is college is overrated. I guess everyone's priorites are different. I have a b.c. (booty call) and it really does nothing other than felling good for an hour. i'd much rather have a girl friend.

 

[Joe 1320]

Originally posted by 88 CuttyClassic
why are there so many bitter guys here? i'd much rather have a girl friend.

Who wouldn't? however......
It's not a question of being bitter, it is being smart. It is about not just throwing yourself into a total lack of self control, not being used for the moment and cast aside when she is done, not doing stupid things like trying to keep her when she screws around. Women are quick to dump a guy when he plays around behind her back yet some lovesick guys would still try to keep a woman that plays around behind his. That's called thinking with the wrong head. It is all about having enough respect for each other that you refrain from playing the field whether you are married yet or not. Relationships are about trust. Once you know someone cannot be trusted, to do so again will eventually lead to disappointment. This is not being bittter.... it is being smart enough to know the difference between reality and childish games.

 

[ross87t]

Originally posted by CopGn
She did you a favor by dumping you and showing her true colors. Never talk to her and if she comes begging back tell her nice try but you are not 2nd to no one. If you do take her back shame on you.

I agree with the above, but if she does try to come back, act like every thing is fine, hit it one more time, then tell her to get lost.

Ross

 

[d0n_3d]

Originally posted by ross87t
I agree with the above, but if she does try to come back, act like every thing is fine, hit it one more time, then tell her to get lost.

Ross

i'm really contemplating that idea

 

[Gmachine]

Man this sounds so much like me about 6 months ago! If you are willing to put yourself through waiting on her to change you'll go through HELL! And if you really think she is going to take the time and effort it would take for you to take her back your wrong. She already can't seem to make up her mind. I don't see her putting in the work and embarassment up for someone that she's so confused about. I know it's tough, but times the healer. And try making some changes in your life. I joined the gym got contacts, bought new clothes, started going out a lot. I'm a lot more outgoing and enjoying life. I'm a lot more active in church and have developed new friends. My car even got a makeover and new wheels with some of the money I was saving for house plans. The best part is running accross her friends and family and hearing how much I've changed for the better and how she made a huge mistake! I still think of her, but know that it would never work no matter how badly I want things the way they once were. I've moved on and so should you. I'll say a prayer for you tonight, God knows what will come.

Ryan

 

[ulose2av6]

listen man you have a long way to go. people today get married divorced so on and so forth. You are not the only one in this tell you the truth they aint f****** worth it. You will go through many women till you find the right one dont worry about it. If you want her back dont bother with her. When she calls hang up on her. everything will be ok trust me i learned the hard way also. still learning as a matter of fact lol

 

[BlownZ]

The Less attracted to her you become....the MORE attracted to YOU she will become. If I could only go back to college...knowing what I know now.

 

[d0n_3d]

yeah everyone has gave me good advice so far...let's keep them coming! let's get a chant going..."ditch the bitch! ditch the bitch!"

after reading this entire thread i have grown extremely angry at this girl instead of missing her...now i hate her for everything she has done...is this a step forward?

 

[mgmshar]

I'm 30, so I have probably been through this more times than you. The BEST thing you can do is stop all communication with her. Trust me on this. Once a woman knows that she can get the best of you, then she will lose her attraction to you. Period. There's no logic in it, but it's true. If you keep talking to her, she will think that you have no confidence in yourself, and she will lose her lust for you. I know chicks talk about their Prince Charming and all that stuff, but it's BS.

The best thing you can do for yourself is play the field, especially if you're going to college (man, to be 20 again). Once you take some time for yourself and meet some new people, life will go on. Trust me.

Almost every guy who has responded to your post has pretty much said the same thing. What are the odds that we're all wrong???

Good Luck,


PS: If you talk to her again, you will have to admit it on this board and embarass yourself in front of the entire Buick community...