was it worth it

[Little6pack]

Even a hooker is cheaper.

LOL SOOOO TRUE..

I have a buddy that refuseses to date PERIOD! He calls in the nice 20-28 year old escorts. He says in the long run it is cheaper than getting married or dating. He is right.

 

[turbo nasty]

Seriously get the book "The love Dare" from teh movie Fireproof. Best of luck

 

[DJ Red Barron]

Everyone has different breaking points. When it's over, it's over. BUT, only you can decide when YOU have had enough. Excercise every option. Try every avenue. Once you have done that and things haven't worked out, you will know what to do.

If it goes the route of divorce, that will sting like a b!tch in ways you never thought you could hurt. But it does get better. If things work out and you stay together, it will probably never be "easy". They say nothing in life worth having ever is.

No matter what happens, I wish you the best.




Oh, and the best advice my father ever gave me: Marry a rich orphan. Wish I had listened.

 

[casper]

Thanks everybody I have seen fireproof and even have the book

 

[turboclam]

Has she seen it?

 

[Raymond Bunch]

Has she seen it?

Very good question!

If she hasn't seen Fireproof, try and get her too. Casper, by chance, did you watch it together? Hope all works out for you.

 

[Evans Ward]

Sometimes a divorce can be a blessing in disguise!! It IS tough on children especially if they are young.

Re: Fireproof, my aunt is Erma in the movie, the married older lady that lives next to the leading couple. She is an active member at Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany GA that made this movie. They also did Facing the Giants which is also a great flick! These movies are part of their outreach ministry.

Seriously though, good luck with all here. Two words of adivice- private investigator (if needed) and hire the absolute best divorce attorney you can EVEN if you have to borrow the money.

 

[turboclam]

How's your relationship with Christ? I have found that most people that divorce are out of the will of God and not hearing from Him. Scripture says that God hates divorce. Men are called to be spiritual leaders in the household and he should love her wife as Christ loves the church. Love is so much more than funny fuzzy feelings... It's work. Love is something that you do rather than really what you feel. PRAY....FAST....beg God to change your relationship with HIM and then on your married relationship with your wife. God WILL answer your prayers. God can make things happen that you could've never imagined. He is the only one who can change a heart. Losing attraction to your wife? Pray for attraction. Losing friendship with her? Pray for friendship. Losing desire for sex? Pray for hot sex. Pray for your wife! If another love interest is grabbing your attention then cut it off now. It's easy to screw up, don't fall into temptation. Remember that God first loved us even though we were sinners. You will be rewarded for staying and rebuilding a relatiionship with her, but you can't do it alone...ask Christ. Will be praying for you casper.

 

[datant69]

good words on god and christ

but sometimes it's just not meant to be, do what's in your heart and if counseling helps then go for it and give it a shot if no then make a move and make something happen. just remember once you divorce her and if you have kids. be prepared to have another man help raise them to a degree and be in their life. i have 2 sons from 2 different mothers ( yea papa was a rolling stone ) my relationship varies between them as they are not alike at all. my 18 yr old i see about once a week or more and he leans on me more then momma because we connect like that. my 11 yr old calls his step dad, dad and it hurt for along time but i got over it. just words of advice just like above.

 

[charlief1]

How's your relationship with Christ? I have found that most people that divorce are out of the will of God and not hearing from Him. Scripture says that God hates divorce. Will be praying for you casper.

Not trying to stir the pot but please post the exact scripture you mean. The Bible also says that if a woman doesn't please her man he should send her away. IE divorce.

 

[83turbomon]

What is fireproof

Go watch..... FIREPROOF!

What is fireproof

 

[GNBRETT]

with a 70% failure rate its only a matter of time. Chit, I cant keep the same car for more then a couple years without getten bored. a woman is no different. kinda like my cars, I like to upgrade my women just as often

 

[1chance]

What is fireproof

+1 Well, my first wife was Satan himself, but it still hurt. I had to pray from my heart, and he ease the pain. I have found as i look back over my life is,"Some of the worst things that happened to me in my life, was the best thing that could have happen to me", but it hurt like hell at the time, if you hold on, you can look back and see it.

 

[David65]

What is fireproof

Fireproof (2008)

 

[ALVAROG1983]

First of all you made a mistake getting married now you have to spend all this money learn from that mistake.look at the good side your single and don't have to deal with no ones sh!t.

 

[turboclam]

www.gotquestions.org

Malachi 2:15-16 "You were united to your wife by the Lord. In God's wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in His sight. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. Therefore guard your passions! Keep faith with the wife of your youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, says He hates divorce and cruel men. Therefore control your passions-let there be no divorcing of your wives. Submission is a very important issue in relation to marriage. Even before sin entered the world, there was still the principle of headship (1 Timothy 2:13). Adam was created first, and Eve was created to be a "helper" for Adam (Genesis 2:18-20). At the same time, since there was no sin, there was no authority for man to obey except God’s authority. When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, sin entered the world, and then authority was needed. Therefore, God established the authority needed to enforce the laws of the land and also to provide us with the protection we need. First, we need to submit to God, which is the only way we can truly obey Him (James 1:21; 4:7). In 1 Corinthians 11:2-3, we find that the husband is to submit to Christ as Christ did to God. Then the verse says that the wife should follow his example and submit to her husband.

Submission is a natural response to loving leadership. When a husband loves his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25-33), then submission is a natural response from a wife to her husband. The Greek word translated “submit,” hupotasso, is the continuing form of the verb. This means that submitting to God, the government, or a husband is not a one-time act. It is a continual attitude, which becomes a pattern of behavior. The submission talked about in Ephesians 5 is not a one-sided subjection of a believer to a selfish, domineering person. Biblical submission is designed to be between two Spirit-filled believers who are mutually yielded to each other and to God. Submission is a two-way street. Submission is a position of honor and completeness. When a wife is loved as the church is loved by Christ, submission is not difficult. Ephesians 5:24 says, “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” This verse is saying that the wife is to submit to her husband in everything that is right and lawful. Therefore, the wife is under no obligation to disobey the law or God in the name of submission.

 

[ttaowner]

lots of wisdom in this thread! i'm gonna stick around and see where it goes.

for the record i'm not married and have not been! got a girlfriend who mentions it several times a week though!

 

[Phoneguy]

lots of wisdom in this thread! i'm gonna stick around and see where it goes.

for the record i'm not married and have not been! got a girlfriend who mentions it several times a week though!

Let her read the post above yours concerning submission, she wont ask you anymore. :biggrin:

Bryan

 

[BILL HAINES]

Turboclam 3

how's your relationship with christ? I have found that most people that divorce are out of the will of god and not hearing from him. Scripture says that god hates divorce. Men are called to be spiritual leaders in the household and he should love her wife as christ loves the church. Love is so much more than funny fuzzy feelings... It's work. Love is something that you do rather than really what you feel. Pray....fast....beg god to change your relationship with him and then on your married relationship with your wife. God will answer your prayers. God can make things happen that you could've never imagined. He is the only one who can change a heart. Losing attraction to your wife? Pray for attraction. Losing friendship with her? Pray for friendship. Losing desire for sex? Pray for hot sex. Pray for your wife! If another love interest is grabbing your attention then cut it off now. It's easy to screw up, don't fall into temptation. Remember that god first loved us even though we were sinners. You will be rewarded for staying and rebuilding a relatiionship with her, but you can't do it alone...ask christ. Will be praying for you casper.

hey this guy is "on the money'!!!!!i lived the nightmare 12 years ago, i can say that "god is faithful" he never wastes pain."trust in the lord,he will direct your path.. Prayers go up for you,my friend...